I am a FWW and read your post to someone else about how to end the A sooner. One thing that yanked me out of the fog right quick was when I felt I was losing my H. This sounds really weird, but I never intended to spend my life with OM and told him so. I said I would not leave my H. He was meeting needs, but I had a history and love with my H. I wanted him to meet my needs. But, I was weak and selfish and chose to do something terrible. It never changed that I loved my H and wanted him next to me at the end of the day. So, the answer to your question (or atleast what worked for me), is that you need to make boundaries-- what you will and will not accept. She cannot think of you as her safety net. She needs to realize you will not always be there. Respectfully tell her your feelings.

Any other questions, feel free to ask.

Thank you Improving. I think you are correct. I have a counseling appointment with Steve Harley on Monday and can't wait to see what advice I get.

All the best.