I've written and rewritten the no contact letter, think I have it right this time. I just don't know how exactly I will deliver it, whether I should just leave it on his windshield, hand it to him, have a friend do it for me, mail it to his wife.....no not serious.
I cried as I wrote this letter and I honestly don't know whether it was because I am so sorry for the disrespect I caused my family and H (although he is so pissed at me and me at him for the drywall, big hole), or for my own selfish thoughts. I have to complete this process, first thing tomorrow or it will never be over. I still worry he won't accept it and eventually be all over me again. I've tried verbarlly several times to break this thing off to no end.
I think the longer my H doesn't come home due to the info. he learned this morning the tougher I'll be to make this stick tomorrow.
I'm going to try and fix my wall. Having a hard time explaining to the little guys why daddy decided to renovate the living room and not finish the project.
His violent temper is one of the things I most dislike about my H. I guess it could have been worse, it could have been my face.

The no contact letter needs to be short, and not sweet. It should say that your relationship with him is a mistake, that you intend to work on your marriage, and want to contact with him for any reason. Let him know that you hope you don't have to talk to his wife. That usually works. Then mail it - don't give it to him personally.

As far as your husband, he will calm down. I hope there is no history of domestic abuse.