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a birthday card from XBF. Caught me totally by surprise. It was a lovely card, also expressing how sorry he was for hurting me, and that he'll always cherish our time together and that I'll always have a special place in his heart. The biggest surprise of all? I didn't fall apart <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> Ok, I did have a bit of a nice cry, but it's what I needed to hear. What I've struggled w/ the most is how quickly I felt his feelings had changed and that he'd moved on. I now *really* know I had as much of an impact on him as he did me. Now I can let that pain go. Onward and upward. Each day gets better and better. Baby steps, no? DW
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Each day gets better and better. Baby steps, no? Yup <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. One day you'll look back at this and realize how far you've come! AGG
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Happy Birthday!
Yes DW, that is what you needed to hear, and it's okay that you cried a bit.
I think it does help the healing process to know these important details.
I'm very glad for you that you got to read these words from him.
Thinking of you and your baby steps!
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Thanks you guys <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> and thanks K for the birthday wishes....guess I gotta edit my age in my profile <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
I have a question and want ya'lls input......
I was going to send him a brief email, thanking him for the card and the sentiments expressed and wishing him well, but I don't want my intentions to be misconstrued nor are there any expectations on my part of any kind. I simply want to thank him, b/c he has, unknowingly, set that part of my pain free and I'm grateful.
Whaddya guys think?
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Ok, I sent the email.....so much for waiting for input, eh? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> It was a simple and brief email. It felt like the right thing to do and if nothing else, I've learned to trust my gut <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> DW
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ehhh, I say leave the age. Hang on to the 30's DW!
My response would have been, a simple email I would think would be fine.
I'm sure you handled it quite nicely!
He will know there are no hard feelings, and that must be a positive!
Happy Birthday, again. [I see it's official now -nice cake]
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DW,
Not offering you any advice--I'm not qualified. But I wanted to wish you a happy birthday! And I agree with the others...stay in your 30's as long as you can!
Hope you had (or are having) a great day!
LL
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DW,
Not offering you any advice--I'm not qualified. But I wanted to wish you a happy birthday! And I agree with the others...stay in your 30's as long as you can!
Hope you had (or are having) a great day!
LL Well, I'll try! I've got 2 more years til the big 4-0 <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> Well, my sweet DD tells me I look like I could be a college student (sweet little liar <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />)so my ego has been adequately mollified... Thank you for the birthday wishes! Hugs DW
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