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Why do I read this all the time here??
#1577106 01/30/06 01:13 PM
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And just in the last 3 days I've read it more then a few times:
(by well meaning folks for sure) --- so not ignoring the intent,
but:

"YOU have to either Commit Totally to Working on your marriage or Leave and get a D"! Those are your choices!

As if those 2 options are the Only ones available.

Yea,
it would be great if that were the case ........but sadly its not even close.

There are of course choices C, D, E, F and more.

Sorry ya'll just a pet peeve coming out.
Don't worry bout it, it'll pass .......[at least till I read the next time its given out --- hee HE hee]. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Fooling people is serious business, but when you fool yourself it Becomes Fatal.
Re: Why do I read this all the time here??
top rope #1577107 01/30/06 09:51 PM
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well what are the other choices. I am working on the M and looking around.
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Top Rope you know you're one of my faves.

I'm one of the ones who said that and I meant it.

What are the other choices?
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That's not what I meant either LOL so I've edited it out.

I have to think about this.

Last edited by KiwiJ.; 01/30/06 10:13 PM.
Re: Why do I read this all the time here??
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There are of course choices C, D, E, F and more.

Sure there are choices...we all have choices. BUT, are they viable choices that will result in marriage recovery or personal healing?

C: Conflict Avoiding?
D: Demanding Compliance?
E: Elephant Evading?
F: Freeloading?

Would any one of those choices (actions) benefit a marriage or contribute to personal growth for someone?

Just because the "choices" are out there...it doesn't mean that is the correct route to take.

JMHO
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