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What rights does a WS have to be in the house after they have left?
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Then in the absence of a restraining order or separation agreement requiring him to stay away, he is entitled to be there.
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I think it depends on the state law. I went to court to keep my WH out as he still had OW and was taking my things from the home. I couldn't get a restraining order unless there was domestic violence.
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Is he allowed to just take things without me being present and us discussing it?
I live in a joint-property state.
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I was busy trying to save the marriage, and WH was busy packing up truckloads of stuff while I was at work. He took financial papers, and my jewelry too. Until you have a court order, he can take whatever he feels like taking.
My WH also never gave me a dime, cashed in his retirement money and his bonus. He went through over $150,000 in about 4 months. He and OW had some nice trips and she got a nice tatoo though.
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Serene -
Hi - I don't know your story, but wanted to chime in as that was one of my concerns as well. I didn't change the locks on the house and WH came in & out as he pleased while I was gone. This went on for about a month and a half. He never took anything, but it began to irritate me that he could come in & get sneak peeks into my life.
At first I had hoped that he would see what he was missing, but it didn't phase him.
I finally took the step and told him I was re-setting the alarm code and would be turning the alarms on every day when I left. I was afraid he would stop helping out with the bills, but so far he has continued to help pay.
He is whining about it & says that I am cutting him off so he shouldn't have to pay bills. (all this is through notes) So far, though he is paying.
What kind of legal action do you think your H would take against you if you locked him out?
I know we can't legally lock them out, but what do you think he'd do if you did?
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Thank you for sharing about your sitch. I am not sure what he would do, probably grumble and threaten a lot. Not sure that he would actually do anything though.
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Your Welcome -
I think that usually the WS realizes they won't really do anything......Good Luck!
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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