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I was raped on 9/11/2002 while out walking to meet my husband at his job because he had been coming home late and I thought he was having an A this guy came up behind me and grabbed me and beat me up and kidnapped me and rapped me after he did this he told me the reason he did it was because my husband had been screwing his GF. So after that I got the police and I had them go to my house to find my husband but they could not find him nowhere. So after the hospital and all they took me back to the place it had happened and all then they took me home. My husband could not understand what the police told him and the only thing he could say to me was that you don't looked like you got raped. And later that day he went to work leaving me home alone and he did not return until 6 the next morning and he got off at 12am. Now after all this time the guy was caught and locked up having raped 4 other women and trial starts 2/20/2006 now my husband is hiding from me he won't really talk to me I think he is having another A with women he has met online and meets them at the store down the street from the house I cry all the time now because the dreams from the rape are back and he just acts like nothing is going on with me. I think he feels bad but doesn't know how to talk to me my question is how do you make a blind man see? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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Oh, LadyChevy, you don't have to go through this alone. Have you had any counseling to help you deal with this. Since there is a trial, has a victim/witness advocate contacted you to see what they can do to help you - anyone as an advocate from your district attorney's office. Is there a sexual abuse counseling center in your area?
Your husband really has no clue. And he may be embarassed that this happened to you. He may be embarassed that he didn't believe you. Who knows what is going on?
The truth is YOU CAN'T MAKE him see. He has to see for himself. You can only expose him to information.
I think it sounds like you need emergency counseling to get you through this phase of your life. And you need counseling with your husband. He is a secondary victim of the crime perpetrated against you.
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Thank you for your feed back I will look in to it
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