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2long ... this is 2much. There is time for everything and are you ready to pull the plug ?.
She is honest ... one thing I give her credit ... what she want 2 achive if she doesn't want 2 stop ?.
-rh-
Give your absolute best such that you could look back 10 years from now w/ no regret.
Happily Married to Lady Elina - 04/29/06
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I'm with GC who I think boiled it down very aptly, simply, and plainly: She doesn't want to be your wife. She wants to be your girlfriend. So if that's okay with you, divorce her and date her. But this is foolhardy, being married to someone who can't be bothered to make sure she doesn't hurt you. WAT
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2long,
No advice here just some support....you know the MB principles as well as anyone….and it’s up to you as to what you will and won’t live with.
It appears that the turntable has made another revolution and you’ve hit that same old gouge in the vinyl. Can that be repaired?
Sometimes we hang on to old technology simply because it’s familiar and comfortable…it reminds us of our youth…when times seemed so much more pure and simple.
I’m looking at a whole new line of MP-3 players out there…..I’ve noticed that there are a bunch of options if one just takes the time to consider them.
BS 42 S-10 D-5
D-day 03NOV14
Plan B - 04Jul22
Filed(me) - 05May13 Final - 06Mar16
"When a man steals your wife there is no better revenge than to let him keep her."
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Oh rats, 2L.
Don’t know what to say, actually.
I have to be careful since anything I say could be used against me if and when FWW ends up contacting her LTA OM.
Let me know if you want to talk on ilul.
LTAs never ever completely die, it seems.
At least it wasn’t completely out of the blue.
All my prayers to you. I know you are stronger than I am.
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
Thats a moray ~DS
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>I don't think your W believes you mean it
This...THIS...this is what I think rings truest...
Your WW does not believe your resolve.
It took Wookie attempting to step out of the boundry one more time and my subsequent foot up his behind b4 he actually got it. Once he KNEW that there was no turning back....that's when our married life turned for the better.
I hated it. I hated every moment of it. I had to be Barney Bad A$$. It sucked....and it saved our marriage.
Does WW know you mean what you speak? Wookie doubted it till he SAW I was backing up what fell from my mouth. You shoulda seen the look in his eyes then (Pep would have been proud of me).
Oh, 2Long! I want so bad for you to be where we are now. I really do.
- Kimmy
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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kimmy becomes barney bad A$$.. pep definitely would be proud... ARK <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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[color:"purple"]Barney [/color]
how can a purple critter be a badass???
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actually I had visions of barney rubble beating fred to a pulp...
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I'm thinking... (yeah, with WHAT?)...
...but I also have 2 work, 2.
Off back 2 work!
-ol' 2long
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I was thinking Barney Fife (sp?) when I first heard it....
You know...from Andy Griffith show....
lol.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Only thing that comes to my mind is "debbie does dallas", isn't that wierd.
I was going to go with "c" next, cuz that's the next letter...if we were to play that game...but that one was even stupider, so.....
My point? I only saw one porn flick in my life and it was when I was about 18 and I was so traumatized that whenever I try to think of characters with rhyming names "she (that porn star)" pops into my head, and no it wasn't debbie.
Haven't times changed?
I'm proud of you too Kimmy...You da bomb!
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Oh my gawd Pep, where do you find that stuff? LOL
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hey weaver...
georgie porgie..
Sam I-am
hah...made you think of debbie..didn't I...
oooh that is truamatic...
ARKIE LARKIE
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Smart *[censored] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Can I get some people mad at me here, instead of you two arguing? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Ultimately, as a BH, when I read that DRIBBLE, it PISSED ME OFF. It clearly shows that although a FWW can be a boon to the board, it can also be detrimental. The Mary post sounds like a love sick bird still missing her worm that got took away by a faster bird. It doesn't sound like someone that has accepted her affair for what it was. The second offensive post has 2BNormal swooning about how STRONG her FOM is. I call that another situation where relevance to 2long is not seen.
Ultimately, I wouldn't disagree with either posting having thing sof relevance to the board to contribute, and could be very productive in their own threads...however, for this thread, uhm... there really seems only one real piece of advice that would be consistent with MB princples, that would be to tell RatMeat's WIFE. (I intitially abbreviated RatMeat, but then went back and typed it out...I wouldn't want to deprice 2Long the opportunity to actually say that outloud, the whole thing, hopefully it's therapeutic for him.)
-hang in there
9 years now ... and some days you still say grrr!
Hang in there.
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All: Got a lot to do this week, so forgive me if I don't respond 2 everyone's posts. I'll try 2 hit the ones I think I can answer now. No special priority or importance ranking, I'm just barfing out random thoughts here. But I AM thinking about what I'm going 2 do... 2long - didn't we duscuss this tactic some time ago? Like after you reported when RM got married? WAT I think the last time we discussed this was last May/June, around when I'd found email contact and confronted her with it, then we had the meeting with the mediator before she went 2 work at her OOSP for a month. RM allegedly got married around the time my W "found out" he was doing so, in early September. I only learned this time that my W called him, and that's how she found out. She's contacted him 3 or 4 times since then, either by phone or email. Doesn't matter 2 me which. I don't know the OMW's name or how 2 get hold of her. Simple searches for RM don't show anything about her. I could hire someone or pay for a detailed search, I suppose. And I'm thinking about that possibility. But I won't pretend 2 be excited about doing so. -ol' 2long
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Trix: The potential is.. so...there, but she is just still so blind to it because of her stubborn, refusal to release her fantasy that is or was her relationship with RM. This is truer than you think. I wish I could convey how "close" she seems 2 be 2 receptivity. It's very weird, very exciting, and very very frustrating all at the same time. -ol' 2long
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oh crud...
lost a long post.
Gotta get some more work done, though.
-ol' 2long
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"I wish I could convey how "close" she seems 2 be 2 receptivity"
Unstable states. Statistical mixture or maybe coherent superposition of WW and FWW.
Very confustituting and fusterating.
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
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