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I had this thought a few moments ago...
(I am wearing my Tinkerbell shirt)
The Tinkerbell character is in love with Peter Pan, and he loves her back too...they are companions, but it is never meant to be between them...not the same species...Peter Pan is always looking for another (a mother) someone that will fill the shoes, literally and figuratively that tinkerbell can't fill.
But Tinkerbell sticks around with Peter Pan...why? Because she loves him. She gives, and Peter takes (her pixie dust and the ability to fly) and she gets nothing in return...
So why does she stay? Because Disney wrote her that way, it's like that in the story. So why do OW stay? For various reasons, but because they have convinced themselves they are OK with this situation or they have hope for more...
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance!
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LOL, so......if we don't wish tinkerbell better (like in the movie) she'll die right??? LMAO
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Oh you make OW sound so much cuter and lovelier than the fruit-fly that she really is!!!!
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Smack!!
Oh a mosquito.
Oh no.. that was the OW.
I do not blame the xwh for his affairs and abandoning our marriage. He fulfills 90% of the Cleckley Criteria
I forgive him for his insanity and I forgive myself for being gullible to his charms.
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You misspelled "Stinkerbell".
Mulan
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WH cheated in corporate workplace for many years. He moved out and filed in summer 2008.
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Or maybe "Tankerbell".
I feel so sorry for those OW...devaluing themselves. Accepting so little in return for their love...
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance!
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Speaking of Disney and infidelity analogy, the laughing hyenas in The Lion King come to mind as well as they scavenge for any morsel of meat leftover by the evil Scar.
Sing loud for the sunshine, pray hard for the rain.
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Well, in the book, every time someone says they don't believe in fairies, a fairy dies. Think it'll work if we all start saying we don't believe in OPs? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
"No power in the 'verse can stop me."
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Or maybe "Tankerbell".
I feel so sorry for those OW...devaluing themselves. Accepting so little in return for their love... as Pep says... 'OW = Volunteer' No compassion needed (that part's mine) - Dru
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I have heard that I should feel sorry for the OW. So let me see if I can do it.... HMMMMMMMM.... I'm trying....... GAG vomit Nope, can't do it. Maybe when I don't remember that she was my friend and had been in my home and had hugged me and told me that she hoped things work out for my marriage etc, etc, etc... Actually, I think that I might feel sorry for her after I stop breathing and I have no plans on doing that anytime soon. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Sorry. Got a little resentment and rage still going on. Loni
BW (me)46, XH 46, OW 42 (former friend)
DS26, DD23, DS21, SS17, SS27
EA since 2/04? PA?
He filed for divorce 3/8/06.
OW divorce final 3/10/06.
He left 3/13/06, "to think"
Gave me letter from lawyer on 3/17/06.
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I think my WH is in the process of leaving me (and family) for OW. So that's no joke.
They will go to Neverland and live happily until... reality bites.
Then I will be watching from the first row.
BS (me) 46
STBX WH 53
Married 2000
DS, 11; DS, 10
1st A: LT D-Day - 02/14/06
2nd A: D-Day - 12/21/11
Plan B since 1/17/12
Divorcing
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still here
i disagree
in my fairytale...i lived happily ever after with my prince
but in reality, OW is living happily with him now
unlike Tinkerbell....so far,it seems that IT IS meant to be
and the OP DO get something out of an affair...they are selfish and are in it to get something back
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It's so funny that we're comparing OW's to tiny creatures....I always called the OW in my case his "keebler elf" much to his dismay, because she's WAY shorter than me and has long stringy, mousy brown hair that her ears stick through.
This, of course, was pre-MB, when I didn't know that WS's take insults to the OP as an insult to them.
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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My thought is the BS is more like Tinkerbell. He may have thought it someone else was going to be the one. However, I fought for him just as Tinkerbell fought for Peter Pan.
Tinkerbell was there first. She couldn't meet all of his ENs so he went looking for someone else - Wendy.
Wendy came in and Tink was pushed aside. Peter Pan only called on her when he needed the pixie dust.
So, I think Wendy was more the OW and Tinkerbell the BS.
Tink did her best to break them up - I think she skipped plan A and went straight to Plan B. It worked, too. Wendy went home and Tink and Peter Pan were back together in Neverland.
Just my opinion.
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I agree MF <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Tink was his companion - they weren't split up. Peter obviously wasn't getting certain needs met by Tink and was looking for others.
Along comes Wendy...
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