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Good Morning Two,
I checked your profile and didn't see your email address listed there. I will be happy to send the article, just let me know where to send it.
How are you doing this morning? I hope you are feeling better, but I know sometimes that takes a while.
Tired41
BH (41), WW (40)
D-Day 9/4/05
DS(15), DSS(13)
Divorce Filed 1/9/05
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My DD stayed the night with me and after I went to work today he decided for the first time to come to the house. She has loved him like a father for 16 years and is so angry at him! He acted like she wasnt even there and just went about taking whatever he wanted (printer, CD's etc) and then just left. He wouldn't even speak to me on the phone.
I have not heard the sound of his voice for two weeks.
BW 47
WH 48
D-day 6/28/05
Divorcing 2/06
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How sad. That really is so sad. To me, it's one thing to walk away from you...but your daughter too. I mean, he wouldn't even speak to her or anything? I take it he was her step-dad? Is her birth father in the pic?
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Her Bioo-dad and I divorced when she was 2, and though they speak he has always been more distant than around. STBXH was there when our GD was born and has been very close to this D and GD. GD (4) adores him and has been asking for her grandpa and I know that this makes it harder for D. She has to watch me fall apart and try and explain the unexplainable to GD as well. She is a drama queen by nature and is quick to anger and it breaks my heart to watch her come to terms with this. Just another man who walked out on her type thing. I can't find the words to help her get through her own grief right now and for a mother there just isn't any feeling more helpless.
BW 47
WH 48
D-day 6/28/05
Divorcing 2/06
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That's so sad. How old is you D now?
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She's 25 and should know better. She is recently divorced and is really struggling with maturity at this point. I see no point in arguing with him over "stuff" and she wants to punish anyone who makes her angry. We are close and she is very defensive of me, but has not learned to temper her emotions with reason.
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WH 48
D-day 6/28/05
Divorcing 2/06
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Well, she's still young. And I don't blame her for being protective of you.
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I think sometimes we get so deep in our own pain that we don't recognize and can not control the damage we do to other people - our own children and our spouses especially. I need to believe that this is what STBXH is going through and that what he is doing is not intentional. Because I still love him, it hurts to see her hurt and to inflict that pain back on him as a consequence. I am not angry at him, and she just doesn't get that either. Oh well. Tired41 - did not realize email addy did not show in profile - please email me at wendymcghee@hotmail.com, Maybe I can use the info on D as well!
BW 47
WH 48
D-day 6/28/05
Divorcing 2/06
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