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#1598727 02/24/06 02:45 PM
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Okay, this may seem minor, but it today I'm totally distraught. My FWH forgets to tell me things that I think are important, then acts like "hey, I'm sorry, I just forgot." However, he's very P/A (passive-aggressive) so I attribute it to passive sabatoge.

Today, I was talking to my sister on the phone & mentioning that I got the cell bill paid so I will be able to talk to FWH when he's working. He works with my BIL at the same company so she says "Well, you know he has a pager?" I was like "no?" Then, when I ask FWH about this, he acts like it's no big deal - he just forgot.

My problem is that our whole marriage has been based on this type of deceit. And now he's supposed to be following the policy of radical honesty, but then here we are.

Advice anyone?


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I have no advice, except to say that you can't change him. If you understand and just accept him how he is, your life would be much simpler. I am not saying you should live with that, just that it would make your life much easier if you accepted him how he is and decided if you could live with him that way or not. You can't change a person's personality or character, and that is just a true fact.


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