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So... what do I do? Bake a cake? Or weep disconsolately?
Sigh...
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Tam,
You keep getting stronger and living your life.
Take care of you .......
The ball is in his court my friend. You have done all you can its all up to him now to do the right thing.
It will get easier....
Hurting
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Thanks, Hurting.
Last edited by RiverTam; 02/28/06 10:25 PM.
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RT,
Mark it down as another day in you getting stronger. Congratulations on you standing for what you believe in. Standing for respect.
Keep it up.
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Just my 2 cents (from my experience of failed Plan B's)..... Keep up the good work on you. It's the single greatest gift you can give yourself. YOU. Be very strong in your Plan B. Failing to uphold what you said only lets the WS know that they can either manipulate you into not keeping your word, or at the very least let's them think you are not very strong. SAY WHAT YOU MEAN. MEAN WHAT YOU SAY. What a very clean and honorable existence that creates for you. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. You can't be true to anyone else if you're not true to yourself first. You are doing a great job. And you will know it yourself a little more every day. K <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
AKA UnMoved
Me55
WH 53
Married 34 years
Son 32; Daughter 30
A for 5 years or ? WHO KNOWS???
D-Day May 15, 2004
D finally final Friday, October 13, 2006
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Thanks, Kim and K. Even though I committed to this for the long haul, I guess I was hoping for something rather more dramatic after doing this gig for two months, you know? Don't get me wrong, Plan B is great and was 100% necessary for me, but deep in my heart of hearts I was hoping for the tiniest litle sign that WH is waking up. This whole experience has been one of growth and learning, but I've rather had enough of the whole "the greatest love of all is happening to me" deal, I've had enough of the self-discovery. I just want my marriage and family restored already! Know what I mean? Don't mean to be a downer, I just miss my H and wish God's time was my time. (But then again, don't we all? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />) I'm determined to stick to the plan though! I am Ms Dark and plan on staying that way. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Hi RT,
Congratulations!
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Even though I committed to this for the long haul, I guess I was hoping for something rather more dramatic after doing this gig for two months, you know? Don't get me wrong, Plan B is great and was 100% necessary for me, but deep in my heart of hearts I was hoping for the tiniest litle sign that WH is waking up.
This whole experience has been one of growth and learning, but I've rather had enough of the whole "the greatest love of all is happening to me" deal, I've had enough of the self-discovery. I just want my marriage and family restored already! Know what I mean?
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....I know what you mean....
....but hate to rain on your parade, RT, but apparently WSs take a long time to come out of the fog just to allow BS to 'develop' more PATIENCE..... and to learn to focus on what we CAN control - us - and not focus on what we CAN'T control - WS (HaHaHa)
...hold on to your hat....it's going to take awhile... got any MAJOR personal projects that you have always wanted to do? ...this would be a good time for them..... being 'busy' with PERSONAL enjoyable projects makes time 'fly'.....
Luna.... (big sigh as she goes into her eighth month of PLAN B and can't believe it!.... and having lots of time to work on personal projects - latest one? getting into YOGA and enjoying it more than expected!)
Take care.
XBW
DS16 & DS22
PLAN D: finalized!
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Oh yeah: many, MANY projects on the go. Still... I know what you mean about patience and releasing control! Necessary lessons to be sure, I just wish I hadn't been signed up for this intensive course.
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RT -
Don't we all??? I completely understand how you are feeling! Patience....... No settling.
What are some things that you have been wanting to do for you?
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
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Nothing, really. I always made sure I made time for me and the things I wanted to do. The only thing that is MUCH better is that if I want to do something or go somewhere, I don't have to wait until he is ready to go. So often I missed out b/c of his work commitments, or his sheer PA. Nowadays, if I want to go somewhere, I just go. LOVE IT.
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