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Hey cc46,

It is not only that. Something has happened to me and I can't explain what it is or why or how it happened. To be honest, I think believer might be praying for me because I have no other explanation. It is almost like I have suddenly developed super powers. I wish I could describe it. I am just positive, upbeat, happy, clear-headed 24/7. Maybe I have been abducted by aliens.

WW took me to work yesterday because it was my day for breakfast (which she made). I normally won't call her at the house but I did because I knew she was at home with DDs. This was about an hour after she had dropped me off. DD1 answered and said WW wasn't home. Had never come back from taking me to work. Well, that can only mean one thing at this time of the day. While I was talking to DD1, WW walked in and got on the phone. I told her I just wanted to call and tell her that everyone raved about her breakfast and couldn't believe she had done it - and had gotten up at 4AM to do it. I did ask where she had been. She said she went right to gardeneing after she got home and had never gone inside. I said that I was concerned because her being absent in the AM usually only meant one thing. She said she knew and apologized. I only mention it because the tone in her voice was sincere and not defensive in the least. It turned out to be a simple conversation with no LB's or DJ's and we left it as it was.

Last night I had her help me put the rope light around the palm tree. She had promised DD1 that she would help her make Playdoh (sic?) even though we have the real stuff already. Everything was out on the kitchen counter and I thought I would help her but realized there was not enough salt. I went and bought salt and marshmallows for DD2 who wanted to roast some. When I got back, WW got on the phone, DD1 got on the TV and I ended up making playdoh all by myself and I am asking "what is wrong with this picture?". At least DD2 gave me a marshmallow so someone still loves me.

Today is going to be a long day and we have a date tonight.

I'll get her to post tomorrow while I do the gardening.

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Traic, I've notice you've posted on Idiotville a couple of times then deleted it.

Inquiring minds want to know.........?

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Traicionado, I think those things that we can't explain do happen to us BS, just like the WS can't explain what happened to them!

So enjoy, have patience and keep up the good work. Somehow I don't think Gemela will continue posting here. She doesn't seem to feel comfortable. Maybe in the futur.


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KiwiJ,

I didn't know what IDIOTVILLE was. One day I was just scanning and I saw something there that struck a chord and thought I had something useful to say. I have since gotten a better understanding of what IDIOTVILLE is.

cc46,

I hope she will post but I won't force it. I will ask however. She truly has been occupied enough that she would not just sit down at the computer for any reason the past few days. Historically, she has spent maybe on day a week on the PC checking emails, etc. so daily activity is not her MO anyway. Anything she can do to maintain NC is fine so if staying busy all day long is what she thinks she needs, great. I just had a dream that I caught her with a phone card. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

You are right and I understand your advice that this is when I have to do my very best. Funny thing is - it is so easy. I swear I have super powers.

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OH MY GOD <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

It just hit me - I DON'T have super powers! I think I am in love <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

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Delusions of grandeur on the super powers.

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Believer is praying for you. And don't say anything bad about Idiotville. That is where I do most of my reading.

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believer,

I didn't say one bad thing about idiotville now did I.

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That's good to hear. I love to read and post there. It is just a place to relax, and not think about all of this crap.

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believer,

I understand now what it is. I am just in the thick of battle and I have to spend all my time and energy doing nothing else but think about this mierda.

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Traicionado...you are too funny!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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Or wiping it off your shoes!

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Myrta,

I don't speak Spanish all that well and I don't really know what "mierda" means. All I can infer is that it is something that must be quite large because every time gemela tries to explain it to me, all I am able to understand is that I am only a little piece of it. So it must be really big!

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Come on Traicionado! Who's goint to believe you don't know what mierda means?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

the good thing about this forum is that we can say a whole lot of things in spanish that can't be said in english! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Anyway, seriously speaking, it's very disrespectful of G to call you that. I don't think you should allow it from now on, and obviously you cannot call her anything similar in any language!

That's one interesting thing about my relationship with my husband, we had a lot of respect for each other in THAT sense. We never called each other ANY of those names. But still he had a typical A which is still going on after 15 months! so respect is no protection for As <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

so if you need any special <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> words in spanish, just let us know. There are many here willing to help out, as usual....

Being in love is good.


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Traicionado...you are kidding,n o? You must know, like CC says what "mierda" means. Gemela does not give me the impression that she would use that word with you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
If she does, you should not allow it. Because you two should really have respect for one another. My husband does not allow me to say those kinds of things to him, not even stupid,dumb,nothing !!!!!! Mierda is not a pretty word to call someone!

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Sorry Myrta,

I was only joking. I know what lots of bad Spanish words mean.


Seriously. WW would never say that to me in any way other than a joking manner. I don't want to give her a bad reputation.

BTW, I learned my Spanish in Maracaibo. I know bad words even WW doesn't know.

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Hmm..ok....nice for you to clear that. Gemela seems like a nice girl. I am sure you know lots of bad words in spanish. When americans learn spanish they always learn the bad ones first> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Where is Maracaibo?

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Yesterday we ran in a 5K at 7:00 and, if WW had not gotten a back pain and walked for a hundred meters (with only 500M left in the race!) she would have "showed". She was upset all day about that. She is very competitive. We got home and I started doing the gardening but noticed we have a new neighbor. I introduced myself and we talked a bit and then I drove him around our end of camp so he could see where everything was. Got back and did all my gardening chores and I do mean chores. At one point I was 20 feet up in a tree with my 15 foot pole saw (electric chain saw on a pole) cutting tree limbs from over the entrance of the house so WW doesn't have to clean the berries every day. Unfortunately gravity and minor miscalculations both went against me. I am bloodied and bruised. DD1 kept begging me not to die so I promised her I wouldn't. Then it was time to rush to get ready to go to the golf course.

We played but I played reasonably well while WW played terribly. She was frustrated. It is interesting that we played with a neighbor whose wife recently separated and is in USA trying to develop her affair. The interesting part is that the OM in our neighbor's case was playing in the group behind us. I was amazed when I saw him. The guy was frumpy. I could not believe she had an affair with this guy and ruined her family accordingly. Her OM has dumped her BTW. It was still an awkward situation. Oh, and we got a flat tire on our golf cart. Could it possibly get any worse?

When we got back, I started helping DDs and neighbor friends build a "club house" out of all the empty boxes our new neighbor had in his driveway and WW was watering the grass and she said she can imagine that it would be very difficult if her "amiguito" (euphamism for her OM) where still here. I simply said that if he were still here, she wouldn't be. She laughed.

It was getting late so we started getting ready to go out. She had the sand from a dozen bunkers all over her and I had the sand on me from standing down wind of her while she got out of those bunkers so we were showering and I mentioned that the neighbor told me his WW was still in contact with her OM so he had made the decision today to get a D. She was surprised. I told her that I had told the neighbor that, as long as his WW was still in contact with the OM and refused to stop, there was zero hope for their M and that D was now the only option left. Their quasi Plan B had not worked at all. Remember that neighbor WW was gemela's hero when she left here to go back home to "get her thoughts together". What she really left for was to try to develop the A and it backfired. Now she is broke, lost her daughters (their choice), lost the OM and has nothing.

We got DDs bathed and fed and went out to dinner. It was a long day and we were both tired but tried not to show it. We got back to the house and I did break my "no SF" deal. It was going nowhere so we didn't finish. I told WW she seemed tired and she said she was so we stopped. It has never "frustrated" me to not finish SF and this is not the first time. I guess it is good in that if WW wants me to find her desirable and she wants ME to want SF, then I gave her what she wanted emotionally. It is also good that I hopefully may have erased the line I had drawn. I am hoping that there was something good about it I guess is what I am trying to say.

Overall I think it was an okay day. I'll choose to look at the positive side anyway.

The worst part of yesterday is that I discovered ToddAC made all his money dealing crack cocaine. He is so into it that he has to have a special type of accountant to keep up with it. I am seriously disappointed in ToddAC <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> (just joking OKAY!)

We have no major plans today other than more gardening, 9 holes of golf and I want to watch Kevin getting kicked off American Idol. WW says that was way overdue. I do think gemela will post today. She promised she would.

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You have no problems in the ahem department?

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I am not sure what you mean? If you are asking if I was not capable of finishing what I started, the answer is no. I was good to go. I could see gemela was not involved and it had been way more than enough time. Up till now I have never come up empty even once in my life. I dread the day. Last night, gemela and I could have kept going for an hour and it never would have gotten any better and, after too long, she starts getting pains in hips or cramps in legs so it becomes painful for her after a while.

If I missed the point of your question, ask again. I'm not all that bright. My mother can attest to that.

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