Hmm, I think I get what you're saying. You did lose me with "there is no spoon." Americanism? Traicism?

Yes, it's all in the perception, read lack of communication between both parties. Was she neglected? Only you know that. She mentioned drinking and time on the computer. Was that neglect? I don't know if that's her perception or the reality.

So, are you saying you don't need that complete control over your life any more? I'm not sure if that's what you're saying or not (and you call LA obtuse <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />). I can only see that as a good thing. You're saying you now go with the flow?

I don't know if Gemela has always been a giver. People who have A's generally aren't. I'm certainly not a giver.

There is no perfect husband. There's no perfect anybody. That's what LA was telling you.

I would never call LA obtuse simply because I don't know what that means.

To my friend ToddAC all I can say is that until you shoot an "18", there is always room for improvement. That is the good thing about golf. It is also the only sport where you can call penalties on yourself so it has a great deal to do with integrity.

KiwiJ,

I never wear a watch. I stopped years ago. I don't care what time it is (although I am almost never late for anything for some strange reason). I stopped wearing a watch because, when I am with someone or talking to someone, there is nothing more important for me to be doing in that moment so time is irrelevant. If I go over and miss something that I should have been doing or wanted to do, I just make adjustments accordingly.

traicionado,

You are ignoring the "rest" of what I said.

BTW, did you spend more money on golf clubs or tools?

ToddAC, the only dictionary I ever consult is the Oxford English Dictionary which is available online to me because I'm lucky enough to work at a university (otherwise I'd have to pay).

Traic, did I ask if you wear a watch? Are you sure you're answering my posts and not someone else's? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Sorry Paul Harvey.

I definitely have spent more on tools than clubs for me. For gemela, the jury is out. Can I include the airfare to Hong Kong to get her custom made set as money spent on golf? For her, can I mention all the clothes, hats, colored gloves, pendants, necklaces, bracelets, anklets, earrings, shoe adornments? Clubs are nothing by comparison to the accessories. Women's golf is far more expensive than men's golf.

KiwiJ,

I think I was alluding to the "go with the flow" attitude. That is where I found the relevance of not wearing a watch.

I still say count your blessings. Let's see, forty GWTW dolls at $350 per head, then all the non-GWTW dolls, the display cabinets, pictures, plates, room divider, books, tea sets, music boxes, jewelry boxes, pillows, movie posters, drinking glasses, DVD, VHS and various artifacts; let's see, multiply by twenty seven and carry the three, add fourteen cubed to that and square the distance from the Earth to the Sun, yes, that is $32,187.35 invested in GWTW. And she can use none of it to hit a golf ball. She can wear none of it. It just sits there irrevelently on shelves, tables, vanities and the floor collecting dust. Okay, a confession is in order. I did once use the stand on which the dolls sit as a screwdriver. Bent it. Doll leaned to the left. WW thought it was a stylish touch Madame Alexander added to the line. Due to my undying love for her, I never told her. Was that wrong of me?

$32,187.35 invested in GWTW? Frankly Scarlett...

Wow. That means you have $32,187.35 invested in guitars as well. Good for you.

If you go to Google Earth and go to 26 deg 17' 47.81" N by 50 deg 07' 20.61" E you will find our golf course. There is plenty of grass - just no rough. I have played the Mazalij course at the Emirates in the UAE (one European PGA event played there every year) and it is exactly the same - no rough. It is more typical of courses like you might find in Arizona.

No, not even close. I never said I would spend the exact money on guitars that I spent on GWTW; only that when I buy a GWTW doll, I get the luxury of buying another axe. For some reason, I sort of kinda think I have bought my last GWTW doll.

You said that golf, unlike life, allows you to start anew each day. I am going to take that a slightly different direction. The course is the same. You play the same course every day because it remains interesting. You have never fully explored all of it. There are still challenges it can give you and without any warning. Each time you approach it, you bring your prior experience. You bring your memories of mistakes previously made. You remember the breaks of the greens from past experience. You learn to read the course and predict how it will respond. You sense the change in the bankers if the sand is wet or dry. You sense the change in the way the green reacts to your putts depending on whether they are fresh cut or not. Fairways may be soft or hard. The relationship between you and the course is long term but the interaction is constantly changing. How many times have you thought – I'll never try that shot again?

When you set up on that first tee, you don't have a new swing. You have the swing you have developed with trial and tribulation – hopefully now better. If the course did not give you happiness, you would never go back. There is a symbiosis between you and the course. I drive hit with the best of intentions finds a fairway bunker due to an unexpected shift in wind direction. What you thought was going to be an easy approach only moments before now becomes a real challenge – testing your very best skills.

Your relationship with the course is a long term affair that, for most, lasts for life. Once you have found the love of the game, you cannot betray it nor it you. You may be disappointed by it – often are. But you remain true to it and your dedication of it. If golf were something we began anew each day, we would grow bored with it and seek another sport.


On a separate note, WW only needs ONE axe.

Disagree my friend. Golf is different every day because we are different. If golf were the same and we were the same, we would shoot the same round every time out. And see, that's my problem with trying to make the golf course happy. It cannot be happy unless I am happy.

BTW, I did not know that WW played guitar.

Here I was expecting some male-bonding support and then you go and whop me up the backside. What is this? You hold him up while I pummel him? I am not buying into the golf metaphor (or is that analogy?) and I will tell you why.

Between my house and the MC going up the perimeter road, there is a line of "poplar like" trees on the right side hiding all the waste area between us and the military base. The trees are intended to "beautify" the place but are sparse enough that you can see what is on the other side. Some days on the way to MC with WW I would look at those trees and think how beautiful they were. Other days I would look right past the trees and see only the ugliness on the other side as if the trees weren't even there. Yet other days I would see the trees as a thin facade trying to hide the ugliness behind. Every single time I saw something in those trees. Depending on what I saw in those trees was a pretty good indicator of how MC would turn out.

Now when I drive by them do you know what I see? Trees. I also see the waste area behind. It isn't ugly - it is just a waste area full of old buildings.

Kind of like the poster on the bathroom wall I talked about in a thread long ago.

The golf course is just a golf course. You can draw any metaphor you like pro or con but at the end of the day, a golf course has no free will. If there is a message in a golf course, it is something that can only be experienced by the one.

Now if LA comes back, I am waiting to see how bad this is going to hurt. It will likely be about 5:00AM tomorrow my time before I can respond so just keep your world time clocks wound.

KiwiJ,

the "spoon" is from the movie The Matrix.

Ah. Here's the thing. I've only ever seen the end of Matrix 1. They always seem to play them back to back on TV and I always seem to miss the beginning and I've only seen bits of Matrix 2.

I'll ask H, he's seen both (all three?) about 100 times.

Spoon boy: Do not try and bend the spoon. That's impossible. Instead... only try to realize the truth.

Neo: What truth?

Spoon boy: There is no spoon.

Neo: There is no spoon?

Spoon boy: Then you'll see, that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself.

"Now if LA comes back,"

An "if"? There's an "if"? Is that like an implied prayer for a nasty pothole incident to preclude my return? Hmmm?

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Tell me where it hurts...what I said...what you heard...what you felt...why you believed I was angry.

LA

(hi Todd, Kiwi, Dylan, believer)

You got a posse, Traic!

Last night was a horrible night. I came home yesterday and DD2 had her best friend over to play. I went upstairs to help WW clean out the toy room so we could paint today. DD1 was outside riding her bicycle and DD2 was in the kitchen with best friend and decided to get the hamsters out and play with them in their circus cage. We could hear them and all "seemed" fine. DD2, at some point, said DD1's hamster was thirst was thirsty and decided to give it water. Well apparently as we now understand it, she shoved its face into the water dish and held it there. Well, poor Pepito didn't make it.

DD1 found it and was just devestated and came and got us and then we found the poor little guy panting and grasping for life. He hung on for a while but, in the end, our best efforts at resuscitation were not good enough. WW took friend home, DD2 went to her room and I was left with DD1 and Pepito. My little DD1 is sentimental anyway - this was too much. We talked about a lot of things. Eventually we had a nice burial. DD1 cried for hours and I did too. It just breaks my heart to see her hurt and unhappy. I got a terrible headache. I still have a splitting headache this morning.

I am not going to read any more this AM. My eyes hurt. I am going to work out. I am not trying to avoid anyone - I just feel miserable.

Poor Pepito! Sorry to hear that, T. I hope your daughter feels better soon. One of the things about pets is when you love them, you also take the chance of losing them.

There ree good days and bad days...

Sorry about Pepito

Hey T, how are u doing today?

I'm going to start getting off the ads today. For one month I have to take half a pill, then half every other day... takes time I guess.

T, I have to go to sleep, can't wait for you tonight/this morning, but when I get up tomorrow I hope you'll be around.