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I've been in Plan A for a little over 2 month's since D-Day. There has been tiny verbal baby steps by WW but no real action. It is unknown if contact is ongoing but I suspect it (gut feeling).
I have a lot of questions and statements that I want to say to her. Brutal honesty and openess about lies, hypocrasy and love is an action word. Not all is negative but I'm afraid she will just get mad/upset and take steps back.
So do I sit down and talk or write a letter to her or just keep it journaled to myself for now until more plan A goes under the bridge? Can there be a talk like this in plan A?
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Are you trying to educate her on appropriate behavior?
If so, no. It won't be received well.
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No, not really about 'proper behavior' just about stuff between us. Stuff she has said in front of me and our kids about 'trying' but hasn't followed through. Stuff about hiding cell phone when it rings, saying wrong number. About saying she's going here when she's not. Stuff about her thinking too much damage is done that can't be fixed. Etc.
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Sounds like she is still in an affair. Who do you think it could be?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Following up with Lexxxxxy's thought - no, not overtly, brutally honest. But honest honest.
Remember, you're dealing with an alien abductee. Your normal, rational thought processes won't work.
If you catch her in a lie, just calmly communicate that you know it's a lie. Then drop it. Don't rub her nose in it. She's not ready for "normal" honesty.
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I agree that it sounds like she's still having an affair.
GPS? recorder? Cell Bills?
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