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Somewhat OT:
I saw the title to this thread, and the first thought that came to mind was, "Almost never, unless, for whatver reason, the WS decides to have SF w/ the BS instead of the OP."
Hmmm... Maybe that didn't help anyone. I frequently deal with bad situations through dark humor.
BS (me - 32)
WW - Crystal43 (34)
D-Day - June '05
3 DDs
NC - w/ OM #1, could be; w/ newest-OM, who knows
New OM. Same MO
She moved out 3/15/06 ("Beware the Ides of March!")
"This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us —whatever we ask— we know that we have what we asked of him."
1 John 5:14-15 (NIV)
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I'm having a hard time, too, Sfjaj. We haven't been intimate since D-day. The ugly fact is, S was difficult for me all the years of our M...I'd tried to address it (without criticism...it's a sensitive subject), then finally gave up. But S with the OM was amazing, and it's hard to want to go back to what I KNOW will be tough again...and tougher now b/c of the A.
Emotionally, too, being a WW, S isn't just physical. So, I'm still afraid to commit to my M when there are so many EN's met in the A. My H is doing better now, but I don't want him to go on killing himself to please me! It makes me feel yucky. Somehow the OM "naturally" meets those EN's...I've known him for 12 years, it's just his personality.
W/D stinks...I'm still not wanting to do N/C. I suppose I must, and should stay married, but I don't foresee long term happiness there. My H is a wonderful man, but I'm afraid we'll never both be happy. It makes me want to just be single. If I didn't have 3 kids, that would have been my decision long ago.
"When you love someone, all your saved up wishes start coming out."
Elizabeth Bowen
(Changed my profile name, as it was appearing in Google searches. Yikes!)
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habiba, your honesty is very good. It helps to release that, and I, for one, will not judge you. I know where you are coming from because my relationship with the OM was much better than it is with my H. We shall try to support one another in NC and trying to recover our M. It seems very difficult sometimes, but I believe I need to try
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Thanks guys....I'll update a little later.
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