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Pep, I wish I dare call him but I am too fragile today- think I may end up love busting or getting emmotional, it's a great idea though.
Miffy1
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HIM(WH)-48
5 grown up children, 2 granchildren due August 06
OW-35, 2 children 8yrs and 6yrs
D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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By all accounts OW comes across as being very confident. Often the people that "come across as" being very confident are really not. It is all a front they put on but once you get to know them better you can see right through it. I have a friend like this. It does get old. (And no, it is not Pep. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />)
Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail.
~ Kinky Friedman
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Then how about sending it in a note to where they live? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail.
~ Kinky Friedman
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good idea
send a lovely anniversary card
you've earned the right to send your husband a dayum card
walk him down memory lane ... "remember Johnny's 3rd birthday when our dog Skipper ate the cake?"
"remember that Christmas we were so broke but we made it a party anyway?"
.... you get the idea
one thing I did was send my H a photo of us together on the beach ... and I said "This was a good day, wasn't it?"
it will piss off the OW big time and she may lovebust!
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Hi Pepper and Susan,
Well I dont know why but I just could not send a card to my STBXH- it just did not feel right as he is now engaged to OW.
I had a lovely weekend, we went to see Chicago which was fantastic and did a little shopping on Sunday in Canary Wharf.
I did have a very bad day on Friday but found out later that evening that on the guys night out WH and OW had a very big argument which ended up with him storming off.
They have since been seen going to the doctors as WH has been suffering from severe migraines- something he never had when he was with me- wonder if OW ever lets up on him.
Anyway I'm trying to get myself back together and hope you also had a good weekend.
Miffy1
ME(BS)-45
HIM(WH)-48
5 grown up children, 2 granchildren due August 06
OW-35, 2 children 8yrs and 6yrs
D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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Update today-
Last week attorney sent STBXH a proposal for division of assets which allowed me to make a complete break with no maintenance payments.
THe letter also asked for him not to phone me direct but to send any correspondance through his attorney.STBXH must have received the letter yesterday.
Last night this text message was sent to the kids;
This is the last text I will ever send you. Your mom is having a laugh. I've had enough.
This is the man who is living with and is engaged to be married to OW. He has left me with the house sale, the payments of all the bills except his share of the mortgage. He has only contacted the kids infrequently by text message and now he says he's had enough.
Does he think my life has been a breeze for the last 6 months. All he did was take his clothes, personal effects and his motorcycle and moved on to pastures new - I've been left with the aftermath of his decisions.
Are these men for real?
Miffy1
ME(BS)-45
HIM(WH)-48
5 grown up children, 2 granchildren due August 06
OW-35, 2 children 8yrs and 6yrs
D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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