sfjaj, I am very concerned for you. You seem to be spending a lot of time and energy calling people out on their posting styles and "meanness" instead of focusing on healing yourself and your marriage. I want you to read the below quote that Patriot92 wrote about himself recently: Read it carefully because this is what I believe you are doing. You are using avoidance tactics to face your own issues within yourself and your M. We WANT to help you. If you don't like someone's posting style that is fine. Just ignore them. Please do not jump on threads of new WS's and tell them to ignore posters. You cannot predict whose words will get through. You cannot predict whose style will fit a new poster. It is disrespectful and pompous attitude that you go around telling people to ignore other posters. Please let them discern the information for themselves.

Now.. how are things with you and your H? How is withdrawl going? Are you maintaining NC? Do you still miss the OM? Have you identified the reasons the A happened? Let's get you back on track, ok?

^^

FF

YOU've got mail

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Pep

back atcha

In my best AOL voice, "You've got...

...snails!"

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Sry, always wanted to say that.

FN

BWHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

faithful, I agree... I am focusing on our M and we are in MC. On the contrary, I believe others have debated my posting style because they don't agree with me

if you have something mean to say to me... say it to my face

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Really? How, exactly, has your focus *here* been on your marriage?

And yes, of course, we have debated you because we don't agree with you...pretty obvious...what you post is in direct opposition to MB principles...If we agreed with you, why would there be a need for debate?



Hmmmm...who are these "posters" that give "helpful advice"? What was their "helpful advice", and how did you use it in your situation? Please provide practical examples...THAT would be helpful...


And since you didn't answer any of these questions when I asked them earlier, I am posting them again...

How is posting advice to others helping YOU with YOUR situation? How is it helping to right YOUR wrongs? How is YOUR marriage improving because of this type of involvement here? How are YOU changing? How is any of this helping YOUR husband with his pain? Pain that YOU caused, based solely on YOUR SELFISH CHOICE to have an A...doesn't matter what the condition of the marriage was before...the A was still YOUR SELFISH CHOICE...Your husband had NO say in that CHOICE, YOU did NOT consult him...What is YOUR payoff in going head to head with others here?

I already know the answers to those questions...the real question is, do YOU?


Mrs. W


P.S. Hey, FF & Pep...I want mail or to be a snail or whatever...NO FAIR...LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W, you should really take the time to read my other posts before you throw a tantrum...Also, did you realize you are repeating yourself? I learn each time I post from others, and, as I write out my feelings, I learn. Also my H has done much reading here and believes that most posting here are very angry people not over their own situations yet. So he will not post any more here, did once