Hi all,

Just had a phonecall- picked up and voice on the other end said" hi babe it's only me", I answered I'm sorry(I knew it was STBXH- He replied "sorry I've got the wrong number." I then put the phone down.

Can you believe he telephoned me by,mistake,instead of OW- It has made me cry as this is exactly the words he used to me when he called. I had hoped he used different expressions to OW- obviuosly this was too much to ask.

Can I ask has anyone else's WS done this and how did it leave them feeling.

Many thanks

Miffy1

Move the buttons. I recall when my then WS called and tried to sound all casual, I asked him, hey..... do you know who this is? This is your W not the OW, did you get your speed dials mixed up...again? LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

That was my reverse babble come back. I used it a few times.

Why? Because for me the RB helped bring down the hurt and left him babbling, while I was able to move forward with my life... AND when he did talk with the OW, he'd recall my words....maybe. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

One time after one of those hang up calls like that and before I could get anything out, I called him back and said: Hey, you know you did call me but maybe you meant the OW? (I called her Mrs. H_______, by her real married name). He asked why and I told him......you are mean to us why would I ever expect a nice call from you? With that I hung up. He later called back and apologized for being mean. I told him I couldn't believe his words and he needed to show it in action. Then hung up again. He then started trying. In fact it was later that I made a rule that only H could come over NOT the WS. So if he was in the WS mood, he couldn't come.

L.

Hi, Orchid

My son seems to think it was impossible for WH to phone me accidentally- I find it hard to believe he would choose to do this to me - can WS's be so cruel.

I must get more proficient with the reverse babble but I was not expecting this call as attorney sent him a letter only on Tuesday asking him not to contact me directly.

Miffy1

Of course he meant to call you. My point is you need to make sure that was your H and not your WS. See the WS doesn't speak nicely to the W and family but your H would or could.

L.

Orchid,

How do you know the difference between WS and H- it sounded like my H who was saying nice things to OW but got me by mistake - if you know what I mean.

Miffy1

That's why you ask. In my case H was calling but the WS was listening in. YIKES!!! So my asking made him decide which one t/b. I didn't have to guess.

L.

Gosh
this is complicated

Miffy1