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Hi all,
Just had a phonecall- picked up and voice on the other end said" hi babe it's only me", I answered I'm sorry(I knew it was STBXH- He replied "sorry I've got the wrong number." I then put the phone down.
Can you believe he telephoned me by,mistake,instead of OW- It has made me cry as this is exactly the words he used to me when he called. I had hoped he used different expressions to OW- obviuosly this was too much to ask.
Can I ask has anyone else's WS done this and how did it leave them feeling.
Many thanks
Miffy1
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5 grown up children, 2 granchildren due August 06
OW-35, 2 children 8yrs and 6yrs
D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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Move the buttons. I recall when my then WS called and tried to sound all casual, I asked him, hey..... do you know who this is? This is your W not the OW, did you get your speed dials mixed up...again? LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
That was my reverse babble come back. I used it a few times.
Why? Because for me the RB helped bring down the hurt and left him babbling, while I was able to move forward with my life... AND when he did talk with the OW, he'd recall my words....maybe. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
One time after one of those hang up calls like that and before I could get anything out, I called him back and said: Hey, you know you did call me but maybe you meant the OW? (I called her Mrs. H_______, by her real married name). He asked why and I told him......you are mean to us why would I ever expect a nice call from you? With that I hung up. He later called back and apologized for being mean. I told him I couldn't believe his words and he needed to show it in action. Then hung up again. He then started trying. In fact it was later that I made a rule that only H could come over NOT the WS. So if he was in the WS mood, he couldn't come.
L.
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Hi, Orchid
My son seems to think it was impossible for WH to phone me accidentally- I find it hard to believe he would choose to do this to me - can WS's be so cruel.
I must get more proficient with the reverse babble but I was not expecting this call as attorney sent him a letter only on Tuesday asking him not to contact me directly.
Miffy1
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5 grown up children, 2 granchildren due August 06
OW-35, 2 children 8yrs and 6yrs
D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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Of course he meant to call you. My point is you need to make sure that was your H and not your WS. See the WS doesn't speak nicely to the W and family but your H would or could.
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Orchid,
How do you know the difference between WS and H- it sounded like my H who was saying nice things to OW but got me by mistake - if you know what I mean.
Miffy1
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5 grown up children, 2 granchildren due August 06
OW-35, 2 children 8yrs and 6yrs
D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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That's why you ask. In my case H was calling but the WS was listening in. YIKES!!! So my asking made him decide which one t/b. I didn't have to guess.
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Gosh this is complicated
Miffy1
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5 grown up children, 2 granchildren due August 06
OW-35, 2 children 8yrs and 6yrs
D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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