I asked my H if a majority of the reason he will not work on us is because he cannot merge me into his new life w/ his new friends and his former EA, (he says there is no attraction what so ever and they are just friends, he even hangs w/ her boyfriend) whom do not like me.

I knew that was part of the reason he left. I have disputed his inappropriate friendship for over a year. When I warned another mother about her 16 yr old son who molested a 5 yr old girl, I made his EA very angry. She cried

That night wh told me "they will never accept you". And I care how??? I said "OMG you are worried this hinders your acceptence by them". He did not answer.

He is almost 40. How can he choose a life w/ crap friends over his family??? It makes no sense. He is still friends w/ her.

I told him, I would be happy to work through counseling on our marriage. I will treat his hobby as though it were a job. When it comes to the EA the will have to be strict limits and boundries, and he will have to find a way to make her a friend of the marriage. He doesn't think I should pick his friends.

This is the craziest thing I have ever experienced. He seems to me like a 13 yr old.

Any opinions???

Julie