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your thoughts on sex
#1648519 05/04/06 08:51 PM
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What are your thoughts on sex while separated??? My WH asked me to meet him for FS, as I was flirting. He said he would like to do this w/ no strings attached. Do you think it is possible that a WS has no problem making love out of NOTHING??
They must feel something, don't you think?

Please let me no your thoughts on this.

Julie
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justjulie #1648520 05/04/06 09:01 PM
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They feel a need for sex obviously. Without love? Most probably.

Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Be sure to realize that he could expose you to an STD.
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justjulie #1648522 05/04/06 09:36 PM
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Do you think it is possible that a WS has no problem making love out of NOTHING??
They must feel something, don't you think?

Well Julie, I think you already know the answer to this question......but since you asked.....

Him wanting to be with you with no "strings attached" is not him wanting to be close to you, it is not you filling some emotional void, it is not him asking you to take him away from the OW, it is not you "connecting" with him. It is not his way of showing you love......

IT IS however, you exposing yourself to and essentially consenting to have sex with EVERY single man that the OW has been with and so on (Herpes, HPV, and HIV/AIDS are FOR LIFE). If you are able to accept all of the above, then by all means go ahead. It is after all, your life and your body to make decisions with. I certainly would never tell you what to do with your body.

God Bless

LM

Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.

I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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JJ,

My x contracted herpes from the OW. It happens more than you think. Logic and common sense fly out the window during an affair. Do your best to stay sane and stay out of the mud(i.e his bed).
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I made sure I was protected.

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