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Getting upset over things that haven't happened
#1649071 05/05/06 01:04 PM
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My husband and I are trying to get pregnant. We have 2 sons ages 15 and 10 (which goes to show nothing goes as planned). I am constantly worried about how he will be with me when I am pregnant and how he will be with the baby. He was fine with the other 2 so I have no idea why I have concerns. I feel I am starting to worry so much about this that I am not looking forward to enjoying it myself. I am worried he won't pay attention to it (or me). I'm worried he won't be excited when we find out. I need help in just enjoying becoming a mother again, but i don't know how to let go of what he's thinking all the time. HELP!
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Stacy33 #1649072 05/08/06 12:56 PM
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Just out of curiosity, why are you planning to get pregnant? Not trying to be nosy, but if you are having all of these concerns, is it a wise idea? Are you afraid he doesn't really want another kid? Do you really want another kid 10 years later with diapers, sleepless nights and all that it entails? Not trying to bust a bubble, but it is a HUGE decision. If either of you are uncomfortable with it, you need to share your fears openly and honestly. In Harley's words, if you can't come to a POJA, take no action.
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JCatPeace #1649073 05/08/06 02:31 PM
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It's not like this came up for us out of the blue. It's been a long time coming. Things have just come up. I know 10 yrs is a long time, but 10 yrs doesn't make the need/want go away. We have always wanted 3 children. We know it's a huge decision. We've made 2 of them. I don't think either one of us is uncomfortable with it. I just what-if a lot. I know my husband would tell me if he didn't want this. He did before.
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Stacy33 #1649074 05/09/06 07:10 AM
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If that's the case, go for it! I'm all for "the more, the merrier." (Have 3 myself!).

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