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Have not posted in very long time, but situation arrived and I am asking for opinions. Brief history. I was married for 29 yrs when former husband left me 8 yrs ago for OW. They have lived together since the divorce, but supposedly got engaged 5 yrs ago. I have never spoken one word to this woman in all this time.My former husband and I try to be on somewhat friendly terms for our children and grandchildrens sake.
Our youngest son is getting married this fall in Italy. It will be an all day party at a restaraunt that has been rented out , with tons of food and plenty of music.,blah ,blah. To make a long story short, my former husband made the comment to me that he , his girlfriend and I could sit at the same table, and that her and I might actually be friends by the end of the evening!
Why would I want to sit with the man who left me and the woman he left me for? Their actions destroyed my marriage, almost put me in a pschiatric ward for severe depression, and my childrens home was forever changed. I hold them no ill will, but I don't want to be sitting at the same table and have this right back in my face. AM I over reacting????
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Joined: Sep 2003
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I'm with you. I would not enjoy sharing a table with the infidels.
Of course, I think you should go and enjoy the wedding. Just be sure that you are seated AWAY from them.
I would tell your ex that maybe she can make friends with someone else - preferably someone WITHOUT a spouse.
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Have not posted in very long time, but situation arrived and I am asking for opinions. Brief history. I was married for 29 yrs when former husband left me 8 yrs ago for OW. They have lived together since the divorce, but supposedly got engaged 5 yrs ago. I have never spoken one word to this woman in all this time.My former husband and I try to be on somewhat friendly terms for our children and grandchildrens sake.
Our youngest son is getting married this fall in Italy. It will be an all day party at a restaraunt that has been rented out , with tons of food and plenty of music.,blah ,blah. To make a long story short, my former husband made the comment to me that he , his girlfriend and I could sit at the same table, and that her and I might actually be friends by the end of the evening!
Why would I want to sit with the man who left me and the woman he left me for? Their actions destroyed my marriage, almost put me in a pschiatric ward for severe depression, and my childrens home was forever changed. I hold them no ill will, but I don't want to be sitting at the same table and have this right back in my face. AM I over reacting???? Nope. Not 1 bit. But this is about your son's choice? Will he allow an OW at his wedding? L.
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Surely the OW wouldn't darken the wedding with her presence by showing up? Did your son invite her? Personally, I would find it incredibly callous and disrespectful to find out that he did. I would have to pass on attending his wedding myself.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Joined: Nov 2005
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I would definitely attend my son's wedding and have a "fabulous" time. I would definitely NOT sit with my ex husband and his GF that destroyed my marriage. Your Ex is insensitive to the extreme to suggest such a thing.
Above all don't let it spoil your wonderful day at the wedding. This is a precious time you don't want to lose or diminish.
BW--Married 35 years, 3 children, mostly grown. business owner and very busy.
D Day November 5,2005
FWH -55 yrs old , PA in July & August 2005
NC since Aug. Admitted to several other brief A's going back 20 years.
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