I came to MB, like many others, one chance night when I suddenly had the weight of the world on my shoulders, having discovered my WH's ongoing A. I read first, lurked, and finally plucked up the courage to post my story. A lovely lady called "Whitefeather" was the first person to ever reply (you always remember the first time!!) and I am forever grateful that I was not ignored, people listened and advised what they would do. I have learned so much here on MB - SO MUCH. I'm also quite fond of Americans now - even Texans <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />.

Then one morning I woke really early (as became norm) and read something on Idiotville that literally made me pee myself laughing and I hadn't laughed like that for a long time. I am not a morose person by nature and the humour was just what I needed. So I wanted 'in' and perserved in posting there because it was easier to laugh than to continue reading misery. And let's face it, some of what we read here is depressing. I can only take so much myself.

So I'm here to defend Idiotville. It is a support group within a support group. It works for me. SO BACK OFF!! TT

(are we having an uprising...cause i didnt get the memo and my straight jacket needs to be dry cleaned.....)LOL

I LOVE YA TT......

LOL TT! Sounds like Idiotville is a lovely place to visit. Isn't it great when the weight of the world lifts off your shoulders - even if it's just for the space of a good laugh!

zuj

zuj - Come and visit us. Idiotville is a great place to just be silly, and forget about all of the pain.

I think it's really wonderful that you have formed a peer group that spans the globe and seems to operate round the clock. All of the "Idiots" should feel fortunate to have such a great network. Every once in a while, I peek at your thread, and its great the way you can help each other when one gets down. I hope that you are all able to form a ring of strength around Kiwi, and help her. All of her rationalizations aside, it's clear that she posted here to get some 2x4's, not just kisses and hugs. If anyone can help her, it's a bunch of "Idiots." Keep it up.

Did I miss something? Why do you feel the need to specifically defend idiotville? Who are you defending it from? I don't get it.

L

Lemonman - I think you need to pop over to Recovery Board to see my point. Alternatively, you can just let us know 3 non-A related idiotic things you have done in your life and start posting in IV. I'm sure as a doctor, you would have lots to share! TT

Can I join, too? I have imbecilic tendencies. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Jo

Please do, Resilient. Everyone is welcome, and it will only take a couple of days for you to figure out who is doing what.

Nikko makes coffee in the morning, and everyone else has a job, but I forget what, and no one seems to be doing their job, except for the Queen.

Who is the QUEENIE of IV? Can she be de-throned?

That would be KYellow. We call her Jelly. And she CAN'T be de-throned.

You will have to pick another job.

Well ******, I was set on the Queen position. Lemme think about it.

BTW: Is it a democracy over there, or a dictatorship?

It's a dictatorship, but everyone does their own thing.

It's not a dictatorship, it's a pirate ship. We are all mateys together.

aaaarrrrrggggg! matey!!

We're all equals thar in our idiocy!

Of Course. We are ALL idiots. And THAT is the key part that the judgmental destructive cruel zealots , well they don't GET it! ....


I remember when I first joined I'VIlle. MONTHS of HARD and steady PAIN and betrayal. I NEEDED some humour.

Even Doctors say that laughter is the BEST medicine. And what better place than among FRIENDS that know and love you warts and all? That smack you when you need it and tease you and just plain ACCEPT you and CHEER ou up and prop you up.

I remember the night shift. Those awful lonely nights when I couldn't sleep and I was so ALONE with my shattered life. RIF and AW and a few others, kept me going. In a time where ending my life seemes almost an option. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

They gave me hope. Made me LAUGH. Made me SEE there was HOPE and JOY and GOd's love for us ALL.

I pity the posters that don't GET it. I pity the posters that judge so harshly and cannot empathize with anyone WHo does no follow THEIR path.

MB is NOT cookie cutter. We have a LOT in common. BUT we are all living our own private h3ll.

A daily struggle relieved by fleeting moments of happiness.

I am forever and Idiot. Aren't we all. We MUST be able to laugh at ouselves LOOK at US!

Long live Idiotville, with Mayor Robby and Queen Jelly
Oh I am the clean up lady who serves drinks and plans a party or two.

And btw that is past due <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Fishbowl anyone?

My only complaint with Idiotville is that one of it's primary goals is to always remain on Page 1. If you don't believe this, go back and count the number of posts in IV of complaints about letting IV fall off page 1. Fair enough. It seems to get a lot of traffic. IMO it is not the only thread that has this goal. So for all these threads on page one, other threads - possibly from somebody who really needs support - get pushed off. Fair enough because that is how forum software works. It is also why I prefer newsreaders. But does Idiotville really now need TWO threads that do that pushing even yet another post off page one?

You can argue the point that people can always navigate to page two but my experience in forums is that many people won't.

So, I ask as some hurting knowing that there are others hurting out there that really need help, can you just stick with Idiotville and PLEASE let THIS thread die?

So what are the "rules" for this thread?

I love humor & silliness

my beef with I-Ville

many married people (who are in weakened marriages) have developed very strong emotional bonds with other married people (also in weakened marriages)

spending 15 hours a week with I-Ville friends
less than 15 hours a week with their spouse
risky
opposite-marriage building
and there have been relationships that developed that I think were quite possibly emotional affairs

I think Kiwi's marriage slip up may be due, in part, to her NOT spending enough time tending her marriage ... which probably seems dull in comparrison to the frolicking humor on I-Ville



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