The key here is age, buddy. About a year ago I read an article about another well known matching service. Here are the men/women ratios they gave by age: (I hope I am remembering correctly

20's and 30's - 65/35 - great pickings for the gals!

40's - about 50/50 - we guys get an even chance

50's and low 60's - 45/55 - almost the reverse of the youngsters

65 and above - men die off to early. Enough said.

Now, we have to take this in context. We men die earlier than the women do. Also, many of us guys, turn into overweight, no-energy slobs sometime in our 50's. Real couch potatoes who won't change their ways for anything.

So, the number of DESIREABLE men is less than we would think. Combine that with the fact that most women take better care of themselves and there aren't enough active, interesting guys to go around. I know a number of women in their mid 50's who have married men 10-15 years older than them. Not because they like older guys, but because these guys actually have a pulse, and their blood still circulates.

But!!! Some of the women in our age range of the 50's and 60's aren't real prizes either. I may get blasted for this, but I have no desire to go out with a women who is 6 inches shorter than me, out weighs me by 20 pounds and has hair shorter than mine. Call me a shallow male if you like, but I would rather spend the time at home with a good book or out with my buddies.

So, be careful. The odds may be good, but sometimes the goods are odd. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hobbs1,
I will be divorced soon (should be final sometime in June) after 35 years of marriage. My husband left over a year ago "to think things over" and never came back. I know how devestating it is to lose someone that you have practically spent your whole life with and how lonely it does get. But please be careful on the internet. There are a lot of strange people in the world and those of us who have been heartbroken are especially vulnerable. Good Luck. Maybe one day I will get the nerve to try it too.

when I pulled all profiles off internet (2 sites) was when I found my bf...not on any site and somebody under my nose for about sixteen years.

I didn't have much success with internet. the guys were either not what/who I was looking for, or they were slick serial daters who were after instant gratification if you get my drift. and they were well-versed in their maneuvers to be all"marriage and family" minded on their profiles. not what they appeared to be online. disappointed me.

just don't expect too much and do not get attached to any of them until one on one weeding out process is begun. that's my .02 for internet dating success.

I just got fed up with not getting who/what I desired.

when I stopped looking, IT HAPPENED <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

and it didn't cost a penny.

Hi all:

Just wanted to bring you all up to date on eHarmony. Started eHarmony May 1, nineteen days ago, and the number of women contacts passed 65 this morning......... this is killing me, responding to all these women.... As stated before, I'm having to ignore some, because... well, for example, some said "they prefer cats over dogs". In my book... they're out. I suspect Justin Explorers comments regarding the age of participating in eHarmony.. and the over all response may make sense. (Men die off at age 65, making the odds for men better than that for 20-year-old men). Had me thinking... what happens when I turn 100? Do I then corner the market on all ladies age 105 and above...? Boy o boy, this is exciting..... :-) Well, as said before, I'm spending all my time communicating with these gals. Interesting how some immediately provide a picture, (probably of their younger sister), and others wait on providining the picture, until they can figure out where you live - so can track you down and gut you before you know what happened. Well... again, I'm keeping busy communicating, and am considering sleeping with a gun at my side for safety reasons. Best to all. Please wish me your best! :-)

This is truly amazing. It happens to women, also!!!

Hobbes,

I wouldn't mind if she waits for a few communciations to provide a photo, but if you are showing a realistic photo of yourself, you deserve the same from her. Physical attraction is important, and we all have our preferences. I, for example, do NOT like short hair and lots of eye makeup. But, a friend likes the 'boyish' hair cuts and thinks the dark, drawn eyes are sexy. To each his own.

How long have you been divorced, Hobbes?

My guess is that you're fresh out of your marriage and your criteria for a mate are rather low, since you probably feel that ANYTHING is better than your ex. I'd tread very softly on this one, if I were you.

E-Harmony isn't for everyone....My 28 year old Stockbroker brother, who has never been married was roped into E-Harmony after I suggested that he look into it. When he showed an interest in the site, he was told that there were several women available that met his criteria. When he actually joined and paid his fee, they suddenly dropped off the face of the earth. Rather strange that women on the site weren't interested in a successful, young man who is of above-average looks....

If I were you, I'd be VERY careful.

enjoyed the humor in this thread - makes me want to sign up for eharmony just to see what would happen

ideally, someone would come up with a way to match all the people who would make a good spouse and be committed to marriage for life (i.e., "buyers") with other like-minded people

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