My husband and me have been together 15 years. We were married 5 years ago. We have had our ups and downs, but we always worked through things. My husband is 37, and started working with his 22 year old cousin. There was a few nights he didn't come home, and stayed at his cousins. The last time this happened, we had a fight and I said we needed a break. I was going to stay with a friend. he said he would move out, because it wasn't fair to my son, to leave his home. The first week, he was calling and stopping over to see me. He told me, don't give up on us. Then, he became distant, not retuning my phonecalls. Now, he says he loves me, but it's not the same. He has been calling me, and he came for dinner. We have put our house up for sale, and he has talked about getting a new house. iasked him, as a family or by himself. He said, I hope as a family. He said he likes not having to answer to anyone, but since he has moved out all he does is work, sleep, and eat. I am confused. I don't know if this is a mid life crisis. Thanks.

Any chance he's having an A? 37 seems a bit early for a mid-life I think???? Thought that was more like 45ish or so.

Looking at the signs: 1.) stayed out over night with younger cousin; 2.) you suggested needing a break and instead of wanting to work on M, he moves out; 3.) became distant, not returning phone calls; 4.) says it's not the same (love); 5.) likes not having to answer to anyone.

I'm thinking if this were me, in light of my recent M issues, I'd be checking out his whereabouts and doing some heavy snooping.

Have you thought about M counseling? Might be a good idea.

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