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nah I can punctuate - but it is always nice to have other editors around <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Darn...I know you can punctuate well...just something I could have done to help out...distracting myself with technicalities and a round of theory worked for me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> LA
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hey hey...then punctuate away <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> - look at me being so poetic. do you write as well as edit? I would love to read some of your work. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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Two thoughts. First, pass it by your attorney before you send it, just to make sure that you're coordinating your approach. Second, what about a clear schedule of when your wife can see your daughter? Would that work? As time goes on, having a clear and known schedule will be much preferred, of course. If you can get it set up now, that would be better. Something fairly frequent -- three or four times a week, say -- and for 3 or 4 hours each time. You might also want to consider an overnight. I would use the question of whether your wife can keep to the structure to decide how much of that to do.
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...your journey of self discovery and understanding of what you need for you life and well-being... A question posed just to make sure you're saying what you mean to. Adultery is a sordid, slimy, self-indulgent, and intensely cruel thing for one person to do to another. To me, a “journey of self-discovery” is more like what a knight in bright, shiny armor does in a quest for the Holy Grail. Are you sure that’s how you want to characterize your wife’s adultery?
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I just got off of the phone with ww's aunt. she told me that they spoke last week. aunt said she was full of excuses... ww denied relationship with OP - it was just friendship and fun...aunt said that she might be able to pull that crap with me but not with her...no way she was buying it. she told her she couldn't have her cake and eat it to and that she needs to get her act together. ww - had no response...
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hey Longhorn...yep you are absolutely right....any verbage that is better to express this?
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how bout this fot the last paragraph.
"But right now I recognize this is the path you have chosen and you need to gain an understanding of what you need for your life and well-being. I also recognize it is one that I cannot accompany you on. I wish you the best and sincerely hope you are out of harms way."
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how bout this fot the last paragraph.
"But right now I recognize this is the path you have chosen and you need to gain an understanding of what you need for your life and well-being. I also recognize it is one that I cannot accompany you on. I wish you the best and sincerely hope you are out of harms way." just for fun.... heehee [color:"blue"] "But right now I recognize this is the path you have chosen with your head fully inserted up your wazoo and you need to gain an understanding of what you need for your life and well-being as you try to remove your head from way up your wazoo. I also recognize it is one that I cannot accompany you on. I think there is room only for one person's head in there. I wish you the best and sincerely hope you are out of harms way. once the extraction is complete, give me a call" [/color] [color:"red"] I am joking [/color] Once your letter has had it's final edit, we may put it on the list of sample letters.... you have no copyright protection here young man!!!! Pep <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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Stepping in with my sticky fingers: "Right now, I recognize this is the path you have chosen. I believe you are making your choices based on what you see as a need to gain an understanding of what you need for your life and well-being. I also recognize it is one that I cannot accompany you on. I do marriage. I don't do adultery. I wish you the best and sincerely hope you are out of harm's way." Hope Longhorn is on for his opinion. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> LA P.S. BIG laugh for Pep's creative suggestions... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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[color:"purple"] I do marriage. I don't do adultery. [/color]
seriously excellent
"yer a bon-a-fried jenius"
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Wasn't it you who taught me that line..."I do marriage. I don't do divorce." Had all the punch and truth I needed, when I needed it the most. I'm just adjusting for CL...his truth matters. Hope he likes it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> LA
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love your edits ladies! PEP right on about the WAZOO - thanks for that you made me laugh out LOUD! much appreciated...
it can certainly be added to the samples...if it helps someone else out - i am happy to do it. this site has been so much help to me - so whatever i can do to give a little something back.
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Stepping in with my sticky fingers:
"Right now, I recognize this is the path you have chosen. I believe you are making your choices based on what you see as a need to gain an understanding of what you need for your life and well-being. I also recognize it is one that I cannot accompany you on. I do marriage. I don't do adultery. I wish you the best and sincerely hope you are out of harm's way." like this - will add as last paragraph.
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How are you doing today? What's your emotional temperature? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I saw your request to read my work...and I'm letting it hang in the back of my brain, 'k? Wasn't ignoring...just don't have an answer. Keep up the emotional and daughter activity reports...you can do this... LA
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hey no pressure - for that - i know it is a very personal thing - and this is a safe place - so i certainly don't want to cross those lines. no is ok.
today was a horrible day for me - emotionally tough - that letter was brutal. i haven't called her yet...not sure why i am waiting...i am just not ready to feel any more hurt then i am already feeling...although i know i should check in re: d. she did say when i am ready - she would be waiting...i am not ready to talk.
it is lonely here without her, i miss her...it all happened so fast - and even when she was horrible - she was still here.
but at least she isn't hurting me...now it is just me learning to adjust to this life. I did find a little satosfaction in her aunt and cousin calling it like it is and not being afraid of her....everyone else seems to be.
On a lighter note...D and I played some - Candy Land & Chutes and Ladders...she is GOOD...and beat me at candy land...with a big high five at the end. we had a great dinner and watched chiken little so what more could you ask for in life. thats good stuff.
tomorrow we are going to the zoo with my family...so it shoud be a good day.
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well not calling re: D seemed crappy to me to i called and of course got her v-mail...so i left a message that D was ok...didn't really know what else to say so...i left it at that.
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You are learning about presence, CL...I did, too...
I don't offer this for consolation because I couldn't be consoled when my WH moved out (at my demand)...
I learned from my H's absence, that his presence was...
attention (without a word spoken or an action taken)
essence
a vibration
personal noise
could be seen
and felt
without touch
individual energy
to me.
And I learned I had presence...my sons had presence...and a new level of awareness began...for years I had expected, desired and resented my H not doing more, acting in a certain way or giving, giving more...
I overlooked his presence...existence...choice to be present...and mine.
Doesn't step over his choice of someone else over me...his actions and words for that other person, not me...yet I hold this lesson even now...his presence matters, as does mine...as does everyone's...and if I step over that, I do so at my own peril.
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Beaten by a little girl! LOL Awesome...what a delight and boost of admiration and appreciation...a high five...an enjoyment of presence...holding joy and sadness, pain and contentment, with both hands, CL...you're living.
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yes i am learning ALOT about presence. It is hard but both D and I are working through it. The zoo was fun but hard for me on many levels...these were things that were done as a family and her presence not being there...not taking my hand while watching d be amazed by the newness of her experience...not sharing this with her can be overwhelming at times...
even in anger and sadness - there was love also left in the space somehow.
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Anything new to report, cl?
Thinking of you...
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BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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