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#1674958 06/05/06 09:03 PM
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I now know the signs of an A when it's starting, but how can you tell when the A is coming to an end when the ws lives separately from you? Are there signs that give it away?

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Just a stab in the dark here...but how about seeing more interest in you or trying to have more contact with you?


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I'm no expert, but I'm a FWS and presently a BS and I THINK that my WW's A is waning, so don't take any of this as certain gospel!

My A was very short lived, but I was convinced that I was in love with the OW and a ton of other nonsense. The OW lost interest before I did, but emotionally I was still involved in the A. For me--and I realize this may not be common--I was deadset on getting her back and decided to 'give her some space' for a week...in less than a week I noticed that I hadn't called her and didn't care, and that was that!

The only thing that an outsider may have noticed--and possibly better than I--was the waning of contact between the two of us. The OW gave up because of intense guilt...I'm grateful for that.

I believe my WW's A is waning for the same reaons...phone conversations (it is a long-distance A) have been consistently and progressively decreasing.

I have always been good at reading people--not that I'm always right though!--but I have recently been borrowing books from the library to sharpen those skills!

Okay okay...Banyak, you're right! I am doing that myself, but sometimes I just cannot stop myself from going and seeing if anything has changed in the A. For the most part I have stopped spying...but once in a while, even though I know it could ruin my day or next few days, I just can't stop myself.


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