shall do <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Whew, solved another crisis..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Glad this one was that easy. It's a wonderful thing to discard your trash emails.

The "rolleyes" meant that you were so busy accusing him of drama that you forgot to note that you were creating most of it.

YOU were the one who e-mailed him. After he replied with what I consider to be a simple and non-offensive e-mail, YOU wrote to him again. So I don't see why HE gets the stalker label.

For some reason you went on a tirade here, calling him all sorts of nasty names. Idiot, drunk, Mr. quite not so wonderful, darth-ish, geek, etc. And for good measure, you proceeded to implicate his GF into this whole thing, postulate all sorts of stories about how he must be obsessing over you and telling his GF about you, etc etc. Why did you get so worked up over a simple and short e-mail he wrote, in response to yours, I might add?

YOU proceeded to go on a fishing expedition about who is gossipping with whom, making yourself look like an ace gossipper. Perhaps you don't see it, being involved in this drama, but you are acting every bit as high-schoolish as you are accusing him of doing, or more so. Hence the rolleyes.

Really, just as you asked, I tried to give you some thoughts on this matter. I am sorry that you did not feel validated, but sometimes we grow best when we learn to listen to other points of view, not tune them out. If you read more carefully, you'll see that most every other respondent suggested that perhaps you were overreacting and prolonging, if not actually creating, the drama.

AGG

maybe.....just maybe.....

it was HE who "dumped" YOU...

way too much anger and drama otherwise.....

just my opinion.

We have a winner. Rejection is not always easy to accept.

I agree with AGG. Sounds like much ado about nothing. Scratch him off your little black book and move on with life.

Excuse me...but I have no idea what the big hoopla is about in the first place Ms. Peachiness. Why so much thought and anger over something soooooo very minuscule? The guy was only being polite and responding to your email.

Perhaps you are just over emotional today because you don't feel well?

I DUMPED HIM....

So BA you were waaaaaay off base.

I sent out a mass email..actually forgot he was on it.

So BA? What's with the cruelty when you don't know the sitch? it was I who did not want to see him anymore. and it was not any parting on bad terms whatsoever. not at all.

and the rolling of the eyes? sorry, find it disrespectful agg.

uh...agg...he's dating the best friend of the woman who was my xh's ow? she and that girl were all in my business about 2 years back...for quite a few years.

that's the sitch. something did not sit well. and I called it.

topic done.

I listened to your pov...doesn't mean I have to take it or like it though. and I will agree with somebody when it's VALID...and disagree with them when I feel it is correct also.

So the drama continues...

Peachy, who gives a rat's tail about whom he is dating? This is a guy you are not communicating with any more, why the obsession?

You e-mailed him (unintentionally, granted), he replied with a one-liner, you replied with a one liner, end of story. But no, instead you went nonlinear, fuming, venting, cussing, investigating, and fuming some more. Why?

The funny thing is not that you went ballistic, but that you refuse to see or acknowledge that this whole drama is almost entirely of your own making. It's your choice to see this or not, but I think most of us here see it for what it is. Which is why you are getting the responses that you are.

But as long as you are taking responsibility for your actions and choices, then press on <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

I think his point is that if these people don't matter to YOU what they think or say or do shouldn't matter to you.

I read into this that you've given them too much power over your life by being this upset over a two line email.

That's all.

Now a vent ... a vent is having a drunk @$$ steal your employer's camera ... and having his friends who KNEW he had it not come forward until you sent an email to all who attended your wedding to PLEASE return it as your photographer never showed up and not only was it not your camera, but the pics on it were the only ones we had ... all's well that ends well, and after it is back in my hot little hands I'm not going to give the parties involved a second thought.

That's moving on.

Actually, I was referring moreso to the email. He brushed you off, he dismissed you, ...he dumped you. So what! Get over it.

buttercup is right, you give these meaningless people way too much control over your life.

I was not cruel in my post. It's apparent by this entire thread that your sensitivity meter is a bit askew. JMO.

He brushed you off, he dismissed you, ...he dumped you. So what! Get over it.

BA...it is NOT like that. it was I who did not ever speak to him again after HE CALLED ME...he had some wierd calls several months back...rather late and some well after midnight. I never called him back and I dumped him...I IGNORED HIM...didn't like his behavior.

I am over this now..
but what I can't get is WHY ARE PEOPLE WHO DON'T KNOW THE SITUATION SAYING SOMETHING THAT ISN'T TRUE WHATSOEVER?

I was/am angry b/c most likely there are three people back home dishing out stuff about me and my family...and one of the three is presently still having an affair with my xh.

it's the continued messing with my business...you see, it goes like this..

xh is having affair with monkeyho still despite his being presently married. monkeyho also hates me. monkeyho and xh pump people for info about me...why? well i guess it keeps em' unified together and NOT focused about the fact he is presently married...and the ow, monkeyho is miserable and she and her best friend (the girl my former dude is dating) both do it also. I know...I hear stuff...and I am sure glad I do not live there anymore. my xh still tries to find out all he can about me b/c I AM TIGHT LIPPED ABOUT MY LIFE...knows CLOSE TO NOTHING except I pay my bills, taxes, live in same house, drive same car, work at same job, and am a good mom. other than that, he knows nada about me. I like it that way. He has only found out from second or 3rd hand stuff from those girls.

but best friend and I have a solution. NEVER to speak to anybody again that has anything to do with that circle of few people. thus, their cycle is broken. I haven't mentioned anything personal to my xh in quite quite sometime...and won't start. now I have added that guy I used to date. won't talk to him anymore b/c I want to remain private.

you'd have to really know just how the last 3.5 years have gone to truly appreciate the situation...MOST OF IT I DO NOT POST ABOUT ON HERE.

and I like my life just fine the way it is...dating and have been a wonderful guy I know quite well. that's going wonderfully..life is also great.

Peachy,

If I were you, I'd just accept that people are going to be at least causually interested in your life. It has been too much like a soap opera. Don't sweat it. Don't get worked up over it. These people are nothing to you any more, and except the "reality TV" value of some of your experience, you really mean nothing to them either.

So, no worries.

peach:

Haven't read all the replies, but it would have been nifty if you'd cc'd this new gf with your reply 2 him.

Beyond that, why try 2 figure it out? Mid 30's? Heck, guys don't really start ma2ring (assuming they ever do) until about that age.

I'm serious! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

...but I was never that young, as you know. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

-ol' 2long