Just a little backround. I have been Plan Aing my *** off for the last couple of months. I thouhght I was seeing some changes. I discovered last night that it was all just a cover to make life easier for my STBXW.
My mother and father divored a long time ago. My mom became involved with a man that was S from his wife of 20 years. They dated for a while and then he went back to his W to try and make it work. He stayed with his W for about a year. He left her and started seeing my mom. They eventually got married and it was great for the both of them.
My STBXW called my mom last night and started asking questions about it. She told my mom how wonderful and handsome and how great this OM is. She went on and on and asked alot of questions about how my mom dealt with beening without him, etc....
My STBXW had spoken to my mom only twice in the past two years. My W didn't not cover her dislike of my mom for the past two years. They were tight at one time, but, the relationship broke down.
I called my W last night and asked her some questions about the things she told my mom. I didn't tell her that I spoke to my mom, I was just general. My W gave me a totally different story.
My W told me the exact opposite of what she told my mom...
Well, I'm done. Its time to move on and get this over and done with.
I am going to change the locks, pack her stuff and give her two weeks to get it.
I just can't believe she would do something like this to my mom.
My W could care less about who she is hurting and how much she is loved. She has made it clear that she really does hate me and WILL NOT do anything to try and make this M work. She is too caught up in the OM.
Funny thing though, OM went back to his wife to make it work. W is convinced that if she waits long enough, he will leave his W and they can be happy together.
He just won't leave her... But according to her "Hes trying to work it out now".
Im done. I am shutting this whole thing done and moving on. I will no longer do anything to make this easier for her.
She conridicts herself time and time again. She speaks out of both sides of her mouth.
She says she has no feelings but other times shows that she does...
I can't live like this anymore.
Thank you everyone for your help and assistence. I really thought I could make this work and I really thought I could have a wonderful marriage with her.
She has made her choise clear ....
