I don't know if there is something wrong with me, but after trying so long to make it work, I just feel this sense of relief to be done with it. We have been seeing the mediator, things are going smoothly. There is no more fighting, no more hurt, lies, or disappointment.

Visitation is working out ok, he seems to have become a much better father, and I have this new found freedom I never thought I would have. I always worried how this would affect the kids, and while its not ideal, I finally feel they will be ok, and that I will be ok.


Actually the hardest part of this for me, well besides the obvious financial, is dealing with loss of mutual friends and family, or the friends and family I do have only feel sorry for me. I don't know anyone who has been divorced, no one who understands. Its weird becasue I feel like I want to meet new people, not necessarily date, but just meet new people to talk to who can get to know me, just me, not as a mom, or a divorced person, but just someone to talk to and have fun with who doesn't just feel sorry for you, and expect me to forever mourn the loss of my marriage?

Am I weird, or has others felt like this?

TS

TS -

Yes, I cannot describe the unbelievable relief that came over me when I finally, after so many years of fighting, crying and trying to make a marriage work, got my divorce.

So, you are not alone - I totally understand that feeling.

I have tried so hard to make my marriage work and as sad as it is it will probably not happen. So now I just want everything over and I think I am ready to move onto new things and experiences.

I think trying to save my marriage alone has been so draining that I am just worn out. I truly think my STBX will regret his decisions, but right now he is too up and down - one day he hates me the next he is sorry for some things, then next right back to his mean behavior. I am ready for some stability for me and my children.

So I understand and I am hoping that once this is over I will feel a sense of relief.

[quote]I have tried so hard to make my marriage work and as sad as it is it will probably not happen. So now I just want everything over and I think I am ready to move onto new things and experiences.

I am in the same boat as you.Yes, it is very sad but I have no regrets and am looking forward to my new life.
I just moved into our own place. It is going to be great when I am all done cleaning and moving things around in there!! I totally understand your frustration w/ the moodiness. I am dealing w/ that too. It must just be a part of an abuser's m.o. well, good night. I am tired. Arielle89

I fully understand the elation you feel.

My relief came when I decided that the marriage was over and said that I wanted to divorce. I had the peace of mind in knowing that I did everything possible to save the marriage over the past 5 years (that was 2 years ago). Unfortunately, the divorce is dragging on, now almost 2 years.

I've never been part of a close group of friends, but I no longer have someone holding me back from making new friends.

good luck and enjoy...

Thanks - my divorce is dragging to and I just want it over. As I said in another post we are down to 2 issue and one I may just give in on to get this over with.

I need to move on and make my own decisions - plus I need to establish boundaries with my STBX he walks all over me because I let him and I hope it will make things easier.

Kind of looking forward to the day when I can speak my mind to my ex and not feel bad about it. Currently I just smile and take whatever he says.

Ooooh, yeah.