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How do I get my wife onboard?
#1682523 06/17/06 09:48 PM
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I'm new to MB but I really like a lot of the concepts. My wife and I are in a bad place right now. She is having an affair, don't know if it's an EA or PA yet.

How have others in this situation been successful in introducing the MB concepts to their WS, or is that a bad idea?
Re: How do I get my wife onboard?
sfi #1682524 06/18/06 07:05 AM
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You DON'T need to get your wife on board.

From the little bit you've explained in your post what you need to do is get the books "Surviving an Affair" and "His Needs Her Needs", and start Plan A-ing her.

Don't even tell her about MB, for most of us MB was our safe haven,where we could get unbiased advice from people who have been there.

I happen to be one of those people.........I've "Been" there. I'm not there anymore, and I owe it 1stly to God, and 2ndly to the wonderful advice (Which, as the other's will attest, I had quite a bit of trouble following.)

KEEP Posting........and give us a little more background on your situation so we can help you.

It'll be okay.....chin up.

-Caren

Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
Re: How do I get my wife onboard?
CarenMc #1682525 06/18/06 08:01 AM
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The background on our marriage is here.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...e=0#Post3039641

The stuff about the affair is here.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...part=1&vc=1

Thanks for all the support and help. This is the hardest thing i've ever had to deal with.
Re: How do I get my wife onboard?
sfi #1682526 06/18/06 11:03 AM
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Happy Father's Day. I truly hope your wife will refrain from contacting OM today, but it wouldn't be unusual if she did.

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