There is a strong possibility that one of our employees is having an EA - possible PA with another employee. I work for a school district. Now the woman involved in this had a PA with another teacher two years ago - the male teacher involved saved his marriage and eventually moved out of state - now there is talk all over about her and one of our employees - hanging out in her room - taking walks - she is coming to work early again and leaving late again - which happened the last time. She is still married and the om is married also - has two small children - she has 4 - now I do believe her h is suspicious - but I am sure the om wife has no clue.

Two people have gone to the higher ups here - and both times were told it has been checked on and nothing is going on???????? I am at a loss as to what to do now - my first instinct is to write an anon letter to both the om and his wife. Of course being summer maybe it will go away? I just don't know what to do and it make me sick to think of this happening.

Any suggestions?

In my opinion the civilized thing to do is to tip off the spouses. If it was your spouse, wouldn't you like to be informed?

In that multiple folks like yourself have noticed, that ought to give you some comfort.

An anon letter would be better than nothing, but consider a phone call to the spouses and get them hooked up. Or send the same letter to both identifying the affairees by name. The trouble with sending a letter is that it can get intercepted - please consider this.

In whatever communication you end up using, please consider mentioning this site and forum as a resource.

Mull this over and post back your thoughts and concerns. Please know that many BSs on this forum would have been extremely thankful for such information. Not hard to imagine, huh?

Wat,
Just found your response - sorry - I do think I will try and do the letter - I think the ow's husband in this case knows - he has been showing up here - like he did during her first affair. My problem is one of them involved is an administrator. And I am a non-teaching employee - so I could get in big trouble if I did this face to face - I am assuming a letter could be from anyone here. I may still send the letter to both - I just can't afford to lose my job and since it was brought to light to the higher ups here and of course nothing is going on.

It just makes me sick to think about it - and I will see what I can do - again thanks for your reply.