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#1685280 06/22/06 04:28 AM
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My husband and i are doing okay but i cant seem to let go of things he did when we are dating. we got into a fight and he txt a girl and said very sexual things they did not do anything but txt. and i know he has never cheated but the lies he told in the past haunt me.Most of the time i dont think abou them. But he got deployed and now im worried he could go back to his old habits of being online metting women and i dont know how to let it go. it is really hurting our marriage. He doesnt understand why i cant forgive him and neither do i . i think im afraid of letting myself being really happy because its a long fall down when you are happy.how can i move past and trust him??

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Wow...This issue should have been addressed before you got married (asuming you knew about it). At this point I can't think of any way you can be 100% sure about it, but do everything you can to put your heart at east...

Have him give you his email account's and passwords. (yes, he can always make new ones, but it may help you feel better)

If he is getting on the internet while deployed, does he use a public computer or does he have his own laptop or something. If it is his laptop then next time he comes home install some spy software on it. I believe there are some out there that will post results to a private web page for you so you can check on him.

At some point you have to just take the risk I guess.

Hope this helps!


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