My wife is 22 and I love her very much. We have been together a year and a half now and I am a soldier currently deployed to the Middle East. The problem is, my wife likes to flirt with men and when I ask her to stop she tells me that that won't stop them from flirting with her. She also on occasion, likes to go out dancing with her friends, citing that although she would not like it, some guy grabbing her [censored] is just a casualty of dancing.

Since we have been married, she has voiced her dislike of me viewing porn. She was okay with it at first, then the tolerance faded fast. She allowed me to take some with me on my deployment, then told me after I was here that she didn't want me to have it. She says it makes her feel disrespected. That is the exact way I feel when she goes out and dances or flirts with other men. She says that it's not the same thing. When I asked her if she would stop if I quit looking at porn (which has basically already occured) she couldn't give me an answer and told me she would have to think about it. She says she likes knowing she could do it if she wants to, and it makes her happy to know that another man wants her.

Am I wrong for now feeling like I shouldn't compromise on not watching porn if she won't stop what bothers me? [color:"red"] [/color] [color:"red"] [/color]