2much,

Happy Bday. All seriousness aside, you really need a plan. Even a mini-plan will do.

It always confuses me that you people are all on the wrong weekend. (our weekend is Thursday and Friday in case you forgot). But if I did my math right, KiwiJ is only about half a day away from the boss talk. Terrible way to spend a weekend. The boss talk is kind of like an affair to the BS. What you imagine is always far worse than the reality.

I do agree about English road signs BTW. I lived in London for about a year and, to this day, I have never been able to find Lester Square. Not even on the map. But I did have tickets to go see a show there. I also once got ripped off for a one night hotel charge to my American Express card. I made a reservation at the Gloster Hotel. Never could find it either but still got charged the one night stay for not cancelling the reservation. I have always felt that there has been a battle between the English and the French to see who could NOT pronounce the most letters in their words.

But don't get me started on the French. I want to smatter every one of them.

The French!

Do not get me started unless you keep time with a calendar instead of a clock.

2much,

Do you have minor children at home?

please forgive the t/j.

yep, ,3: 10, 9 and 5! They are an awesome and most of what keeps me sane, although they are a handful of energy and noise...that's why I had 'em!

You???

Mine have finished college and out on their own. Otherwise, I am sure I would still be at home.

I raised three sons who are as different as night and day. One is a self-employed artist, a scientist and a businessman. Number two takes after me.

I agree about the plan...H texting mult times...doesn't get it. Don't know what he can figure out in days that he hasn't been able to face up to in person but I want him to have a realization of what life may be like away from his comfort items and security. I may have been too reactive instead of calm and objective but it doesn't really matter b/c the reality is that H's behavior has to change b/c he wants to change...he knows exactly what he needs to do...he has admitted as much. He knows how to treat OPs and has done things for them that he has never done for me...I am tired of being an afterthought and don't want my children to be in the same boat where he chooses others over them.

I have to determine the return boundaries. Don't really even want to think about it though...feel like he'll continue to do his thing regardless...

Thank you for the bday wishes.

Isn't it interesting how different they turn out...mine one is my clone, one H clone and one a mix of all our best and worst characters...she is such a handful!

I have given much thought re: is it better for M to continue regardless of all problems for their sake since all the literature and research lead to staying together except in instances of domestic violence or truly destructive relationships...I do see everything affecting them now and don't want them to end up all scarred by it. On the flip side, when we told them about the potential break up a week or so ago they of course were devastated and it broke my heart. Today, I tell them H will be gone a few days b/c I asked him to leave for a while...no major issues or response from them...

I am home all the time now but will be back to hectic schedule in another year and likely will deploy...I have to keep all this in mind with future plans. I just don't think I could live in the same house knowing what I know and the fact that things haven't changed. Of course, I am being told I expect too much too soon and nothing is good enough. I think that is fog script????

Maybe I am being selfish and am not willing to self-sacrifice, I used to think I could hang in longer but almost seems like I'm looking for reasons to bring this misery to an end.

What year for Nobel??? Chemistry or Physics? Did you stay in Beantown post MIT??? If so where? I lived in Wenham and Lynn...miss the Rockport beaches but aside from that and the rich cultural options could live without ever going back!

Do you and your DS2 butt heads??? I'm sure if he is like you, you probably argue about formula and theory...

I have to get some work done...chat back later

I accept the premise that precipitation units under the influence of gravitation attraction and flowers have achieved homeostasis.

I accept the hypothesis that in the most obscure twilight where absolutely no reflectance is radiated to be perceived by the human eye a wick encased in high molecular weight hydrocarbons is combusting and radiating photons within the range of visual wavelengths.

So why is Frank Sinatra so famous and I am not?


I also believe there is no one path to marital recovery. I used to believe it was a tight rope. But I have found that the path is wide. It is truly hard to fall off even if you stumble. If you keep going, you will reach your goal - even blindfolded.

2much,

Go ahead with your invention ideas. Since it is a given that the government is "patently" stupid, you should be able to collect your royalties with no problems.

LOL. Pio, you'd have struggled with Beauchamp then. For some reason the English think that is pronounced Beecham.

No culturual tattoos, 2Much. I'm European, not Maori, with Scottish ancestry. I guess I could paint myself tartan.

Immediately upon arriving in the UK, I stayed in a hotel in Windsor for several weeks until I found a house. I immediately opened up a bank account at Barclays near the hotel. After a few weeks I found a house in Cobham in Surrey. I went into Barclays in Cobham to withdraw some money and found that I couldn't since my money was in Windsor. As an American this was a totally foreign concept to me. Long story somewhat shorter, I became convinced that I needed to move my account from Barclays Windsor to Barclays Cobham. I asked how long that would take. The reply was they didn't know because the money first had to be sent to Houston. I was outraged. I asked why the money had to be sent all the way to the United States. We had quite a few minutes of confusion. Finally I came to understand that they were saying "Euston" and not "Hooston". That was the start of many problems in the UK. Even so, it still took five days to "move" the money.

I've never been there so I shouldn't say what I was about to say.

It would have been based purely on anecdotal evidence LOL.

Tomorrow is Monday, the meeting with my boss isn't till Tuesday but I will call her tomorrow and tell her I had an anxious weekend and would appreciate some insight into what she wishes to discuss with me. I should have e-mailed her as soon as I got her e-mail but I was a bit dumbstruck.

I think MelodyLane says all y'all is plural for y'all - at least in Texas.

Tell your boss you want to table the discussion (but only if you are sure you know what it means)

Has anyone seen ToddAC and 2much? It is very suspiscious that both are suddenly "off line" at the same time. I can't trust ToddAC one bit.

LOL, it is all y'all, you're right, BigK. I'm not likely to need to use the plural of y'all in the near future but now I will know how to use it correctly.

The silly thing about the discussion with the boss is that I don't think my performance will be called into question. I think she is probably going to tell me what is really going on behind my back with my subordinate. Who knows? Whichever it is, I'm not looking forward to it.

Just so sweet of her to give y'all the weekend to sweat it out Jen.

Yeah, that really annoys me.

Anyway, Rob has been wonderful about all this (as always) and it hasn't been easy for him hearing me yabbering on at 3 in the morning about it.

Pio,

Are you still around?

Yes I am but I have a small problem with Mr. Pure's new thread.