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I know my thread is long and you don't want to read it all, but if you did, you will find I am a VERY confused BS. Well sometimes a fresh start is a good thing. What are you confused about?
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That loss of intimacy that only TWO people can share is lost forever Pio. If you really want to recover your marriage, you have to put that thought behind you, and start completely anew with Gemela. From scratch again. Thats one of the big struggles BP used to have, and also Stanley. Something very,very valuable was lost forever. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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put that thought behind you, and start completely anew with Gemela. I have come to that realization also. It makes me very sad but I have no alternative but to try. Now I need to try to build a new marriage that can never include my No. 1 EN. It seems hollow. But who knows? You and Stanley have done it. So there is hope.
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Welcome to confusion land, China. We study the teachings of that good Man Confucio.
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Okay who is "China" and what did he/she post? Is that yet another screen name for tear?
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Hi larousse,
I forgot to mention that I really enjoyed the photographer's work. Thanks.
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BTW,
Did you listen to your safety message? If so, I'll remove the URL from my sig line.
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I know my thread is long and you don't want to read it all, but if you did, you will find I am a VERY confused BS. Well sometimes a fresh start is a good thing. What are you confused about? I am confused about everything. This is relatively new to me, I just found out about his A a month ago and in that time, he's made his mind up that he wants a divorce. We tried living in our house together, that didn't work and now he's living at his mom's house until he can file for divorce in 3 months.
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If you really,really try to start anew , your marriage will not be hollow...It will be "different" but not hollow, it will have other hues of colors <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />. But Pio, not all the marriages can make it thru this. And you seem so dischanted with Gemela, like you are fed up or something! Are you fed up with Gemela's ways? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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Really? Athens, Georgia the music capital of the world? Do you realize how many great bands are from Athens? I should say the axis of Athens, Atlanta and Macon.
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Good info. As BK said - why does he want a D? I agree with BK. I would say the A is in full glory. You are certain that the PA is over. What about the EA?
It is difficult to Plan A with WH at mom's house. Always remember that WH's seldom say what they mean. Don't listen to the words too much. WH's lie. That is about all they do well.
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And you seem so dischanted with Gemela, like you are fed up or something! I am emotionally detached. That is all I know. Now I am trying to sort out why I would want to go back. Of course it is for the DDs. Of course I will not live in a sham marriage for the DDs. I have to give it time to see what happens.
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I know, but it's really hard not to listen to him when he talks divorce. We even have conversations about it, like we're talking about the weather or something! It's not a big deal to him.
I know there's not much of a PA going on(besides kissing), but I don't know about EA. He hasn't mentioned her to me since I exposed to OW's BF, so I don't know what's going on. They still see each other at work, but that's all I know.
Trust me, I know it's hard to Plan A while he's not here, but I'm doing the best I can and showing him the best "me" I can be when we are together.
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Have you pursued every avenue of exposure. So they work together. Have you exposed there as well? What are your exposure opportunities?
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BTW, we should all congratulate nams for posting 4 times today. I think the ADD meds are really starting to take effect. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I've done all the exposing I can do. Read my thread, ask MelodyLane, I've done everything I'm supposed to do (she "yells" at me if I don't).
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(she "yells" at me if I don't) Good point. Don't take it personally. It's the CFC's in the hair spray. They go to her head.
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She yells at you? Those Tejans think that the world is deaf.
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I don't mind, everyone here, unfortunately, knows more about this than I do. She keeps me grounded when my emotions start runnin' the show. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Well forgive all the questions but we are just doing some fact-finding. I'll go through your thread on the weekend. Yes MelodyLane is tough. everyone here, unfortunately, knows more about this than I do. And none of us is happy about that BTW.
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