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Hi BigK, Luna - I think this is good Plan A behaviour. Heck he might even wake up. Who knows. But Stef must play hard to get. No SF. Just to be clear....I don't think stph20 should be having SF either.....in fact, I wondered if even flirting was already giving WS 'too much' and enabling some cake-eating!
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Hey Suzet with a star. I have some idea of where FC lives and what she is up against. I believe the biggest obstacle for her to go NC is that she doesn't want to tell H. There is no good way to explain the NC without exposing the EA. I could be wrong but I think that may be what is going on.
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Everytime you doubt of the power level of women charms imagine 50 cms long hairs mixed with hidrolic cement on the inner plumbing of a duch. Ugh!
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I just found the bag of Epsom salts so I am going to unwrap the heated jet bubble vibrating foot massager. I had to combine two different shower systems but I installed the Aguamagic accunozzle shower system last night. Stayed in there for 2 hours. Think I'll go put a lamp together first.
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It was harmless flirting...he is still my H and I'm going to act like he is, in a way, when I'm with him. We're just getting over being nervous around each other again.
I guess, in a way, I was trying to stir up some feelings that would make him take a step back and re-evaluate what he really wants. But, once again, I don't know what I'm doing. Besides, he's the one who starting flirting...
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Suzet, I appreciate what you are saying. That's one reason it has been so difficult. But we are trying to rise above this and be mature, caring concerned people. We are trying to walk the walk of a true friendship because it would be so revealing if we shunned one another. There are no boundaries being crossed. We are truly trying to engender a healthy relationship with both of our significant others. I know this flies in the face of conventional wisdom, but it is the mature emotionally healthy way for us to behave. I never said it was easy and we may not succeed, but we have to try. It's almost like a divorce between two people who still have children in common. We have to learn to interact appropriately for the sake of others. Okay, bash away.
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Suzet, I appreciate what you are saying. That's one reason it has been so difficult. But we are trying to rise above this and be mature, caring concerned people. You mean you are trying to pretend like you are "mature, caring, concerned people." But it is little more than an ACT designed to trick your victims so they won't detect your trickery and fraud and deceit. Can you be "open-minded" to that truth?
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I know this flies in the face of conventional wisdom, but it is the mature emotionally healthy way for us to behave. There is nothing "emotionally healthy" about lying and cheating to your spouses.
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Just trying to be "open-minded" here! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Not going to put up with abuse. Melody. That is not what I mean, and I have put in many hard long hours analysing what I really feel. It is no act, it is a genuine attempt to redefine the R into something that is correct for both of us. I was a victim of my own stupidity and naivete and I have learned from my mistakes.
I can be open minded to truth and this is my version of the truth.
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Hi Melody, does the story of FC sounds familiar to you, to someone I think you 'outed' a while ago?
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Egads, I think I have entered a hornet's nest. I will just shut up now. I thought that I had a place here, but I guess I don't. I knew I was taking a big risk telling my story. So much for the truth.
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Larousse, I am lurking...and thinking... and wish to confess....I love you all so very much!
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Nous t'aimion* aussi. Quelque foi. Presque toujours.
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stph20, Besides, he's the one who starting flirting... ...it takes two to tango...
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OK, I've completely cleaned the outside area of the fridge. Much gross stuff underneath but it's all been vaccuumed & cleaned. Let me just take a moment to say how poorly designed these things are. If the coils funtion better when free of gunk why are they so difficult to reach?
The stooopid thing still beeps & I'm quite sure that's what's freaking out the dog. I dragged her up from one of her hiding spots into the kitchen. She immediately looked at the frige with her ears back & flat against her head. When the fridge beeped she tried to bolt out the door.
I found no battery. I have turned the coldness levels up in the fridge & the freezer. I'll wait & see.
Hi larousse. No, she is not being mistreated, but thanks for the suggestion. The boys absolutely love the dog. If she would sleep on their beds with them thry would love it. Several times each day they hug & kiss her. They look for her first thing when they get home from school. They take good care of her & she loves them back. There are no other people in our house when I'm not home. If the boys have friends over I'm here.
The UT infection was a thought of mine when this first started but she seems to "go" just fine.
I'm really feeling like it's the stoooopid fridge. I'm going to find a number for the co. & call customer service.
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Well Ijust unpacked my new 100 foot 12 AWG extension cord with ground. It has taken me 10 minutes to cut all the warning labels off. Now I know why it was 100 feet long - it HAD to be. Did you know that plugging in an extension cord may cause electrocution?
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stph20, Besides, he's the one who starting flirting... ...it takes two to tango... Never said it didn't. And I was kidding. Yes, I flirted back and I really don't see anything wrong with it when I'm trying to entice him back. It obviously worked before when he wanted to date me, I'm sure it can work again even though we're in different circumstances.
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Not going to put up with abuse. Melody. That is not what I mean, and I have put in many hard long hours analysing what I really feel. It is no act, it is a genuine attempt to redefine the R into something that is correct for both of us. I was a victim of my own stupidity and naivete and I have learned from my mistakes.
I can be open minded to truth and this is my version of the truth. Honey, it is a "genuine" attempt to defraud your victims and no one is fooled by that. [except your poor hapless victims, of course!] "Redefine," my [censored]. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Abuse? Isn't it "abuse" to have affairs and lie to your husband and trick him? Isn't it abuse to DEFRAUD someone into thinking you are faithful? Does your husband have to "put up" with that "abuse?" Just trying to be "open minded" here. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Pio, Me thinks you want to welcome G with all the new gadgets working, could it be that you want to see her? Nah, not possible, you? Never.
Let's use reverse thinking: Don't welcome G, don't be kind, fun, relaxed, open to her emotionally and physically, no, no NO.
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