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Jen - you Kiwi's are honourable Aussies ya know.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW) D-Day August 2005 Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23 Empty Nesters. Fully Recovered.
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I think I will hire a nurse and a maid. Or perhaps a nursemaid. Kill two birds with one stone. Three birds actually. Alright, Pio.... you caught one fish here! Now I know you can count....so...what's up with the three? Edited: no need, Pio...just too slow in catching up with the thread!
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XBW DS16 & DS22 PLAN D: finalized!
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MB is (I think) about building strong, successful, happy marriages. Most people don't have those and have no clue they don't. Some recognize they don't but, for whatever reason, accept the compromise. FC has clearly decided to compromise on M and is happy with that decision. From my POV it makes me very sad for her. She lives in a place where she has to see the one she loves on a regular basis and has to live with the one she doesn't out of personal obligation or duty.
I can't imagine the ****** I would be in if I had to live the rest of my life with gemela if I didn't love her. FC is a much stronger person than I am. I do respect that.
I don't doubt that she has love for her H. Something about her sitch that seemed strange. They broke off the A because OM met, fell in love with and married another person. Did he do that out of a sense of moral duty to place an obstacle between himself and FC or is he really in love with his W and, if so, that must hurt FC even more.
There is no question of what I think FC should do. No need to repeat it because ML surely covered all the bases. I am just sad for FC. And, to quote Forrest Gump, "that's all I have to say about that".
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LOL, Luna go back a couple of pages.
That's why I've arranged for the nice young man "Butch" to be Todd's nursemaid.
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Already asked and answered. Scroll up.
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Pio, Thanks for the advice. It is true, I want to control him, and I want him to stop talking to her and lying to me. OK, maybe I cannot control him.He said that phone calls are gradually diminishing and will fade away in time. After some pressure, he agreed to send another NC letter. I hope he will keep it this time. But I will make the effort to think about reacting less reactively next time. Why is it that the BS has to do almost all the hard work to save the M!??
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That's why I've arranged for the nice young man "Butch" to be Todd's nursemaid. "Butch" sounds too much like a Rump Ranger to me.
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They broke off the A because OM met, fell in love with and married another person. I don't like to keep going on about this but that is Sarie's story completely. Plus being 37 years married, plus having an H in ill health, plus being a nurse aide or something medical.
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Pio, I can picture him. He's very fastidious, he wears a nice clean white t shirt, smart, pressed jeans, black loafers and he walks with an ever so slight mince.
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They broke off the A because OM met, fell in love with and married another person. I don't like to keep going on about this but that is Sarie's story completely. Plus being 37 years married, plus having an H in ill health, plus being a nurse aide or something medical. my thoughts exactly. Along with the same callousness towards the victim.
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He'd be PERFECT for Todd.
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Todd, you have obviously never seen an Australian King Prawn.
Darn it, BigK, I have to admit there's nothing nicer or tastier or BIGGER. Assuming that the Aus. King Prawn is large, then it makes the oxymoron even better. Around these parts, typcal shrimp weigh 4 lbs. Then there are the larger varieties.
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Pio, you are extremely bright. And I appreciate the thought you have put into your post.
“Life is a long lesson in humility.”
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It is true, I want to control him, and I want him to stop talking to her and lying to me. OK, maybe I cannot control him.He said that phone calls are gradually diminishing and will fade away in time. After some pressure, he agreed to send another NC letter. I hope he will keep it this time. But I will make the effort to think about reacting less reactively next time. FWIW I believe him. They will get bored with the calls in time. Another NC letter is a good idea. Do it. Why is it that the BS has to do almost all the hard work to save the M!?? Because the WS doesn't want the M?? Helloooo??? Anybody home??? estrela, The balance will shift in time. If WH does come back to you and wants to R, I suspect you will see HIM begging to keep the M. Right now you have to be the guide. You lead the way. Why? Because you are the only one in the relationship that is not a wimp. It is far easier to get a D. It is much harder to try to salvage the M. Or, as AdrianC said, "Plan A sucks!". But I've told you that before. Calm down, be patient and think to the longer goal and don't let a few phone calls kill your chance at R.
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He's very fastidious, he wears a nice clean white t shirt, smart, pressed jeans, black loafers and he walks with an ever so slight mince. So he IS a Rump Ranger.
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Todd, how's things? Can't get the Christy Brinkley cheeks stuck on a blond man with burns out of my mind. Oh, & scabs on the head too. Still, you're a sweet heart. Can you believe that she married Billy Joel? What was she thinking? And don't forget the butter in my eyes. I may look funny but I sure do smell good! Of course it is drawn butter now after the steam. What does drawn butter mean? Anyway? And thanks.
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I'm still not Sarie, but if she's living the same nightmare that i am I feel for her. I didn't think anyone else was stupid enough to do what I have done.
If I was trying to make you think I wasn't Sarie, why would I tell the very same story as she did?
I really am not her and don't know anything about her.
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I have a slight vent to get off my cheeks. Why is it that the announcers for nature shows are all liberal bedwetters?
I just sat through a show about wildlife that featured Black Mambas. A baby Black Mamba left the egg and killed and ate a mouse. The announcer pined: oh, the parents would be so proud if they had witnessed their offspring eat its first warm meal.
Now, is it me or do snakes really have pride? I don't think so.
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Ok, FC, I believe you. Being around here a lot has made me wary. I have to take issue with this though. It's more misinformation about Pio. Pio, you are extremely bright.
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Todd, who are we to say whether snakes have pride or not?
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That sort of anthormorphising makes me barf.
Did I use that big word to impress or am I just smart? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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