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nams #1693678 10/12/06 07:08 AM
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Nice day Nam,

BF called some minutes ago. He was victim of a deer ambush. Three deers in front of his car, gave him dirty looks and yelled at him for not feeding them corn.

Oh well. Right now is for their own good, it's hunting season and to feed them would only expose them more.

BF told them to blame Nams and Pio for scaring me about lyme disease.

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Sorry I don't have much to report. WW is acting like nothing ever happened. I'm doing my best to try and find a way to be happy. I have not been able to post too much because I am having trouble with my computer monitor (she came home).

larousse #1693680 10/12/06 07:16 AM
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Pio,

you made a great job as single Dad. Not exactly a cheff but even Dads are not perfect.

Why don't you tell G a little cheeky the kind of thank you you deserve from her?

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Nams,

You have got it correct: FAKE recovery.

Was your WS really interested in recovery he would have had to admit to the A and agree to NC. These are the cornerstones for recovery. I believe he did it for the same reasons all WS do it.....to be able to justify leaving the M AND avoid taking responsibility for CHOOSING to leave the M.

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He "gave" me a year to see if he "would fall back in love" with me but clearly he didn't.


He couldn't, even if he wanted, if there was continued contact with OW.

I may be reading the wrong thing into this....I hope you are not blaming yourself for not having been able TO DO what needed to be done to have him fall back in love with you during that FAKE recovery.

There was NOTHING you could have done if he was not a willing partner.


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2regret #1693682 10/12/06 09:33 AM
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Okay, almost time to post poems or lyrics.....

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uh oh

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You mean time to stick my fingers in my ears and go "lalalalalalalalala"



Anybody here familiar with the adventures of ASTERIX? This just reminded me of it...

Every adventure ends with a feast.....where one of the characters, who wants to SING to entertain the group, ALWAYS ends up being 'tied' up and not allowed to......


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lunamare #1693683 10/12/06 09:42 AM
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Morning Luna,

You have just given Todd a reason to post poems: He loves to be 'tied' up.

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Hi Beth,

Glad to see you are starting to feel more comfortable to talk about your situation and that you survived your cancer.

Boy...it must have been a handful for you!

I had never visited CA before, but this Spring I stayed in LaJolla.....just north of San Diego... and really enjoyed the area....

WE are a curious bunch....WE would certainly like to know how things are now.... but WE are also very patient....

(...and, yes, I do expect to have objections about my being presumptions and talking about the whole group...SOOOOO???)


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2regret #1693685 10/12/06 10:03 AM
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Hi Beth,

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My H wants to R but I am not sure what I want. He wasn't there for me when I needed him the most - that is hard to deal with.

I think Todd may easily identify with you about this...

You say your H wants to R.....

I don't know how much you have read here..... but in these situations it will be important not to put too much emphasis on what is said....but rather on what is DONE!

Has your H ended contact with OW? ...do you find he is accountable for his time? ....do you find him 'transparent' in general about his activities?

.....trying hard to not 'bombard you' with questions....which, if you are not comfortable, don't have to be answered...

...but as BigK mentioned.....it will be helpful to you to share....if and when you are ready!

...and as you have noticed....we are not shy about offering our suggestions, if you ask us for any (or even if you don't...LOL!)

just in case:

LOL: Laughing Out Loud


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lunamare #1693686 10/12/06 10:05 AM
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I'm curious about La Jolla. It sounds a lot like La Joya. Where is larousse to translate? La Joya would be a nice place according to its name. Don't know about La Jolla.

Rumor has it that Denmark deliberately named Greenland and Iceland to make people stay away from Iceland. It isn't a very inviting name. All the tourists went to Greenland. Boy were they surprised. Where is Bigger? We need to settle this.

I have never been to TJ but have heard so much about it. It is made for US tourists who want women, drugs or both. I thought the US was cracking down and that they were going to enforce a law requiring the use of passports to cross the border?

In my travels across Nuevo Laredo and Laredo, I discovered that the border is about a 20 mile wide no man's land where not many rules are enforced. We were checked for passports well past the border (on both sides) and not anywhere near the bridge itself. It was easy for Mexicans to cross into Laredo and for American to cross into Nuevo Laredo without much more than car insurance.

piojitos #1693687 10/12/06 10:13 AM
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There is softare that is downloadable which can be used to pull his text messages, even if he has erased them! Little known trick.


This, Beth...from the man who has many tricks up his sleeve.....

...and if you need any statistical analysis....you can ask Pio....he impressed me a lot with his 'phone calls' graphs....

...actually....now that I think about it..... we have quite a 'talent' pool around here.... experience with an A, however, is the 'thread' that binds us!


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lunamare #1693688 10/12/06 10:21 AM
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You have just given Todd a reason to post poems: He loves to be 'tied' up.


....and for some French bashing...Asterix is a GAULOIS!


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lunamare #1693689 10/12/06 10:25 AM
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lunamare #1693690 10/12/06 10:29 AM
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Ah no, Pio should know everything, ask DD's.

Menina, voce e do Rio o do Niteroi?

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Do not let the Vogons read their poetry to us.

larousse #1693692 10/12/06 11:25 AM
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Menina, voce e do Rio o do Niteroi?

Larousse,
Voce fala portugues? Para quem voce perguntou isso? Eu sou de Sao Paulo...


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1st A: LT D-Day - 02/14/06
2nd A: D-Day - 12/21/11
Plan B since 1/17/12
Divorcing
estrela #1693693 10/12/06 11:37 AM
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Estrela,
To tentando que voce me fale em portugues a muito tempo.

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larousse #1693694 10/12/06 11:43 AM
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Ai, ai, ai. Eu nao percebi
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De onde voce e?


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estrela #1693695 10/12/06 11:49 AM
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Do Mexico mais gosto muito do seu pais.

larousse #1693696 10/12/06 12:04 PM
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Eu gosto tambem. Eu moro nos EUA ja ha 9 anos mas minha familia esta toda em Sao Paulo.(familia nesse caso = mae, irmaos, etc). Nos vamos visitar sempre, sempre muito bom.


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Parabems. Ha muito tempo que nao vou la. Visite Sampa duas vezes.

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