1. If WH is still in any contact with OW, the affair is still ongoing. I don't know if pressure will work. If he works with OW, one of them needs to find a new job. For me, NC is a boundary - ie if my wife could not maintain NC with her affair partner I would divorce her.

2. Exposure is for busting up an active affair. If WH is still in his affair, you should set your family straight about the affair still being active. If the affair is truely over, such action is unnecessary and punitive. The only people that need to know about an affair after it is over are the BS's of the WS's and children in the right time.

Good evening BigK. How the heck are you?

You know, for years, I thought I was a great singer. And then, a friend got a tape recorder for his birthday...

Hmm... I do like RR and the Coyote.

Reminds me of the joke about coyote ugly. But sorry, I cannot tell it here.

I made enough comfort food last eve for an army...from scratch...beef stew and a stock pot full of homemade chicken noodle soup! Figured with the weather cooling off and so much on the go with soccer I could quickly heat and serve in the next 72 hours!

The roll and cheese sounds like it goes better with wine though!

Todd - I don't think you have ANY good jokes - you're all talk. You never even give us a crumb

Tell us jokes, tell us jokes!

Back to school night went well. Oldest son is doing well, looks like 90's or above for all subjects. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Idjiot ex was there, good for son, but can make my skin crawl on occassion. He had his stooopid Hawaiian shirt rolled up a bit to better see his stooopid MLC tattoos. His stooopid long hair & his dumb, stooopid boots. click, click like ladies shoes as he walks down the hall... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Nams,
Sounds like ex is dressed for a Jimmy Buffet concert...

I LOVE soup 2much, I always ask what the soup de jour is in any restaurant I go to.

I really like butternut squash soup & a Portuguese fish & veg. soup called ciopino. I live in an area that was once a big Portuguese fishing village. It's now antique store & real estate offices for the most part & some trendy little shops, one of which carries some of my work. Hasn't sold any but the work sits there.

Lots of New Yorkers come here for the quaintness, move here then complain of the fishing trucks making noise. Sorry if I've offended any New Yorkers.

Yeah, 2much that's just right. LMAO

Larousse, I agree now with the colonialistic aspect, but at that time was just fun. Anyway, i am not worried with Todd since Tintin is from Belgium!

Hi Todd, thanks for asking.
I am from Brazil (all the music talk just made me homesick). I live in NY/NJ since 1997.
I am a lawyer both in Br and here (since last year!).
things are better. WH broke up A (at least PA). So no more travels, they don't work together anymore. HOWEVER, they still communicate. If they meet, it's during the day, but I don't want to believe they do.

WHY do they communicate? That is unacceptable - at least it would be to me. A dealbreaker.

[quote1. If WH is still in any contact with OW, the affair is still ongoing. I don't know if pressure will work. If he works with OW, one of them needs to find a new job. For me, NC is a boundary - ie if my wife could not maintain NC with her affair partner I would divorce her.

2. Exposure is for busting up an active affair. If WH is still in his affair, you should set your family straight about the affair still being active. If the affair is truely over, such action is unnecessary and punitive. The only people that need to know about an affair after it is over are the BS's of the WS's and children in the right time. [/quote]

Thanks BigK.I will continue this battle for NC. H needs to understand that NC is basic for R. H and OW don't work together anymore but she still contacts him to get business advice (that's whar he claims). From his behaviour, I believe worst is over, but no NC is also a deal breaker for me. I want H to understand this and act accordingly without LB and DJ. Tough.

I am completly in agreement with you. I just found out last week that they still talk (checking his Aug/ Sept cell phone bills). I thought even the talks were over. I've been asking, and H've lying about it. (cell bills of July did not show her number) When confronted, he said it was about business or questions she had on business. I really don't know and I really care and I made it clear for him.
I want him to make a new NC, a little stronger this time. But then, he got sick, so I'm waiting H to get better... to crush him!

Once upon a time in a closed book of my life I lived in what Todd fondly terms the People's Republic of MA...during the winter months I made a different soup each week and must admit the aforementioned soup was the best! I also love squash casserole. When I was young and experimenting I tried to make spaghetti squash but had a butternut...it was pretty funny...same year I ordered Thanksgiving Dinner from the grocer expecting it to be fully cooked...when I brought it home the turkey was uncooked and we ended up eating about midnight...who sells uncooked turkey as a part of a dinner????? I attended the elementary, middle, high and university of hard knocks...I am currently enrolled in the Hard Knock Graduate Studies Program <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Soups, stews, chilis! Yummy

'night

Night nams...get some beauty sleep for me

Stef is cheating on us again in her own thread.

Nams...if you check the post just before yours...Kiwi has actually confirmed that it has been translated...

Okay, but nobody shoot me.

Coyote ugly is when you go out drinking all night and the next day when you wake up, there is a woman laying on your arm. She is so ugly that you chew your arm off so you can leave without waking her.

That is coyote ugly.