Margaritas don't have sugar in them , do they? Oops.

Hola Lunita

Margaritas have more sugar in them than a Coca Cola. Ugh. Sugar and alcohol do not make good bedfellows.

HaHa....there may be some hope for the French, yet!

Thank you.
I feel more comfortable doing my whining in my thread sometimes though! Todd might yell at me again! (I am just kidding , BTW, don't anybody feel bad again!). If I need it, feel free to yell. But don't worry, I'm not going anywhere. You all miss me when I do!

Plus I was getting advice over there from people who don't post here and that was nice. I need as many different perspectives as possible!

Hi stef,

You raise a good point. Just bear in mind that not all advice you receive will be in keeping with MB prinicples. That is one advantage of this lowly thread: the BigK is an MB scholar, no matter how much he denies it.

Luna, I wouldn't go that far. I boycott every other French product. I used to buy the tires with the baby inside them. Never got a baby however. I wanted to sue Michelin for false advertising but no attorney would touch the case. But yes, I hate to admit it, but I absolutely love cognac. And Monet. Not their music however and I don't care for their rich food with sauces ladled all over it.

The last French restaurant I ate in was in Dallas and that was approx. 1987. It was a company function, at least for the three of us. It was a Russian American, an Italian and myself. Of course, the Italian guy spoke perfect French and perfect English and I assume perfect Italian. He ordered his complete meal in French. Never been so embarrased in my life. The food was awful BTW.

Well, all is quiet on the Western front, so here are some song lyrics. Fair warning had been issued. The song is The Beatles' "Taxman" in which the suddenly rich George laments the UK tax system which at that time, had 95% tax rates for top earners. In the song, George got the math correct. And you thought they were just pretty boys. And in another song, "Come Together", John also establishes his mathematical superiorty with the lyrics, "one and one and one is three". To be technically correct, John should have written: one plus one plus one equals three. The word "and" indicates a comma. Should it be "is" or "are" three? I have no idea. Anyway, Taxman. This song could be a theme song for the Libertarian Party.

Let me tell you how it will be
There's one for you, nineteen for me
'cause I'm the taxman, yeah, I'm the taxman

Should five per cent appear too small
Be thankful I don't take it all
'cause I'm the taxman, yeah I'm the taxman

If you drive a car, I'll tax the street,
If you try to sit, I'll tax your seat.
If you get too cold I'll tax the heat,
If you take a walk, I'll tax your feet.

Don't ask me what I want it for
If you don't want to pay some more
'cause I'm the taxman, yeah, I'm the taxman

Now my advice for those who die
Declare the pennies on your eyes
'cause I'm the taxman, yeah, I'm the taxman
And you're working for no one but me.

Hi Todd-
I do forget that not everyone will bear MB principles. I think everyone that has posted to me has though. I hope so anyway! No, everone's advice has been along the same lines, so I think I'm safe. When in doubt, I'll ask BigK! And he reads my thread so if I'm steered wrong, I'm sure he'll turn me back around. And I won't stop posting here, because I think everyone has good advice and ideas. Plus, you guys make me feel better and make me laugh.

How are you doing with everything?

Hi stef,

I am doing okay. I will have the "final final" talk with WW this weekend. I will let her know, once again, NC unless and until she can tell the truth. This time I will enforce it. I swear. If not, you can scream at me, lol. I will then proceed to write a Plan B letter and also outline the conditions for us to R. She will refuse all of them so the only remaining question is whether she will come to her senses before I file for D. My guess is no. I don't think there is any chance. One thing I have learned here at MB is patience. I also want to be able to look myself in the mirror years from now and know that I gave my marriage every change to succeed and it was beyond my control that it didn't. Of course, assuming it comes to that.

On the health front, I feel a little better everyday. I get the second followup MRI next Thursday. Bright and early that morning in fact but I probably won't hear any word from my doc until Friday. I am optimistic and look forward to positive news this time.

How are you holding up?

Hey Todd

I'm glad to hear you're doing OK. I am sad that you have to have a final talk with WW though. I hope that she comes to her senses soon before it's too late. How long do you plan to give her before you file? I hope it all turns out the way it should for you. You always have us to fall back on.

Good luck on your MRI. I have a feeling you'll be OK there too. Keep us posted on what's going on. I worry and I know others here do too.

I am holding up OK. Today is an OK day. But that could change tomorrow or even this afternoon. It's all up and down for me. I'm never better than OK, and I would like to be, I'm just not there yet. I'm trying to stay positive and patient. I really need to learn that patience thing!

Thanks stef. The hold up has been for some time that my health insurance is through her group policy at her work. I obviously need the coverage for the forseeable future. In tandem, I am also managing DS3's perception of what is going on. WW fills his head with propaganda so he tends me put me on the defensive. After I talk with WW, I will get in touch with DS3 before she does.


No, don't worry. I can beat anything. That is my attitude in life and with this alien inside me. And yes, I will be fine.


You know stef, you show a lot of patience that you may not realize. Especially given your youthful age. Heck, I was still reading comic books at your age, so give yourself some credit when it is due.

Hi Todd,

I would have liked to been a fly on the wall when superman took on the drunken latino's!!! I'll be thinking of you with final WW talks...my WH acting like a horses a$$ today...accusing me of wanting some young guy...as if...anyway I wanted you to know I'll be thinking of you and cheering for you to stand your ground. I'll be pretty busy over w/e and don't know how much opportunity to post I'll get so I'm being proactive.

I'm having a rough emotional day today...guess I was due. Getting so tired of all this mess. I need to go get busy, my emotions change like the price of gas...no rhyme or reason...just keep escalating

Yeah, I think it was the red cape that did the trick. And they were not Latino's. They appeared to be a culturally mixed group, that's why I figured they were a work group assembled after office hours. It was actually all very low key. I knew I had to single out one guy because to try to talk to the entire table would have stirred up too much testosterone. But anyway, all was well and I heard the mariachi.


Thanks 2much. I am resolute again and will definitely let her know do not call me again unless and until she is ready to tell the truth and show some remorse for her actions.


Gosh 2much, I can clearly understand why. I hope you have a quick resolution and that the best solution comes forth quickly. You have been through 2much, 2much.

I know you will be fine and I know you can beat this, but it's just human nature to worry about people you care about. What kind of treatments have you had? My grandfather (who is my hero) just had surgery due to complications from prostate cancer, but they were able to remove the cancer a couple of years ago. It runs in the family, so he always got regular checkups so they were able to catch it in time. So I worry about tumors and such with anybody.


Thank you for that and your support. I don't feel patient and I don't think I'm patient, but if you say so, then it must be true! I'm ready to take this bull by the horns and get going on this R!

I just bought my dog a brand new squeak toy and he destroyed it within 5 minutes! He's not usually that destructive that quickly. Normally it's about 10 minutes! What a waste of $4! And it was a cute squeaky hammer too. Oh well, at least I'll get to sleep tonight, he won't be able to squeak it all night!

thanks for the emotional support Todd

can you recommend a good cognac? Now that the weather is cooler I may have to switch my wine habit to cognac...I used to drink Remy Martin way back when, but it's been so long I figured a seasoned, well rounded biz guy like yourself would be able to advise

I am a very simple person but when I find something I enjoy I like to enjoy a small quality sampling vs. bundles of mediocrity...guess that's what frustrates me about the M...used to be like similiar to above...has plunged beneath mediocrity and fear will never rise above it...told H I didn't want either one of us "settling"...I deserve better...can't speak for him:)

Because of the tumor's location, it is inoperable. So, radiation is the treatment of choice. I went through a regimented five week course of two to three daily doses of radiation. The approach is called hyperfractionated which simply means the doseage is divided over time. It gives better results for many types of tumors as compared to a large single blast which is extremely dibilitating.

Rémy Martin is my drug of choice when it comes to cognac. There are many quality levels especially within the Rémy Martin line. I would say let your pocketbook be your guide, provided however that you at least stay with VSOP. In my opinion, it is the minimum quality level to make it truly enjoyable. If you feel like spending or spoiling yourself, go for XO or even Louis XIII. There is nothing quite like a snifter of cognac on a cold, rainy or snowy night.


Well, heck in that case, go for the Louis XIII. A little aside, I have a close friend who lives in Wellesley in the People's Republic of Massachusetts. He is a Greek American. His Dad gave him a case of WW2 vintage Metaxa which is essentially Greek cognac. He broke out a bottle for the two of us and it was fine as silk I tell you. Really loosens the lips. Yeah, just what I need, lol.


I can understand completely. I would never go back to the marriage I separated from in March. There is so much that would have to change for the quality to be acceptable to me.

What did your H say in response to your statement?

A co-worker asked me yesterday if I was doing OK. I told her sometimes. And that's the best way to describe it. I never expected such a roller coaster ride of emotion. I didn't even know I possessed some of the emotions I've felt throughout this. And I'm only 7 weeks into this. Time has flown by. I never thought I could hurt so bad to actually be numb.

I had a difficult childhood with my biological dad and I wrote him off when I was 15. I had no contact whatsoever with him until I was getting married. My mom made me call him then. She felt he needed to be there. Since then it's been very limited contact and I haven't spoken to him for over a year again. I have no feelings for him at all. I just don't care about him. Anyway, I was thinking about this yesterday...it's pretty easy for me to write people off. I'm not proud of that, but that's how I am, because of my dad and all the hurt he put me through. What confuses me, is that WH did the ultimate act of hurt, yet I still want to save my M? I'm so in love with him still, that I can't just let go. My stubbornness could be a part of that too, but even after everything my dad put me through, I've never been so hurt as to become numb. I didn't even know that was possible until now. And it's an awful way to be and it's horrendous for someone to do that to another person...yet it's all over this forum and it happens in most marriages. It's just so sad to me that the one person you're supposed to love the most in this world is the one person you hurt the most by being selfish and stupid. I'm going to stop now, I'm getting aggravated. I want to go shake WH now and throw something at him! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

So will the MRI next week show if the radiation has been working?