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2muchhrtbrk #1694538 10/25/06 07:12 PM
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(((2Much)))


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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Empty Nesters.
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Todd, just wondering if the Tooth Fairy visited for those there teeth you lost???? I bet she brought MM...

She did bring MM. As a medicine only to help with the pain……..

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Todd, can you quit posting lyrics? You are killing me...I am an emotional nightmare these past 72hr and you go and post the tears lyrics...what's a BS supposed to do? I'm hitting the RM tonight...just one serving but it's been that kinda day!

I am sorry 2much. I will not post any more lyrics. Have just one serving of RM for me okay?

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Technical Q: I have no earthly idea what WH spends his paycheck on...getting notices on his personal bills that they are overdue...same was happening with the household bills so I took over paying them (even though it has been with my $ all along he was the one sending the payments).

It is infuriating me wondering what exactly his $ is going to...of course OW but I want details on exactly what things etc. Do I just wait until lawyer gets copies of all bills or can a PI get detailed summaries of what items credit cards are being used on??? I hate to waste $ that I don't have just to satisfy my curiousity but I am allowing this to make me mental!

2much, bless your heart. The test of your patience seem endless. You can just about bet he is spending money on OW. Knowing what and where and when is not going to do you much good. That is, unless your attorney wants to get the records because it can help with asset division in your favor or perhaps even alimony or child support. One thought: if you clearly intend to file for D, you may want to go ahead and do so. By filing, at least in my state, assets are frozen and hopefully your state provides for child support in the interim. Also, every month that goes by is just more money being spent on OW instead of your kids. Moreover, after D, his obligation to pay child support is formalized and if he doesn’t pay, there are mechanisms to enforce payment.

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What is the best spy ware for a computer that has lots of antispyware devices???

I may be a little confused on your question. If you mean software to block, detect and remove spy ware, and other malware, your best choice is Ad-Aware. You can download and use a free version but it does not provide a shield against malware so you resort to running a bunch of scans to keep it off your computer. I don’t remember the license fee, but it is very reasonable and you can get the full version of Ad--Aware which effectively shields malware. Don’t forget antivirus software. Best is AVG available at www.grisoft.com. There is a free version and a paid version. Subscription version provides tech support as well as priority updates.

Now, if you mean key logger software, there is one which is quite superior to the others. I cannot remember the name; will need to follow-up with it.

If you want to read the text messages off his cell, you will need a cable that connects his cell phone to a USB port on your computer. Software is available for download online. Again, let me know if this is your intent and I will get the website for you. This only works on cell phones which have SIM cards.

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I am now gathering evidence in case there is any custody issues down the line.

This is a critical issue. Meet with your attorney and learn what evidence is admissible in court. Have you met with an attorney yet? If not, please do so immediately. There are many things you can do and refrain from doing, to help your case.

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I had the greatest idea the other day...WH bday coming up...I think it would be great if I invited all the OWs to a surprise party for WH but they wouldn't know who was invited...could have exclusively for OWs which would be 10-12 I think...music would be all the love song CD's and then once WH arrived he could be roasted by all the OWs after I gave them a little run down on why they were all there since they should all get to know each other b/c of their common bond!!!! Whadda ya think?

You are on your own with this one. All I can say is you decide to do this, please capture it with your camcorder and share with us. I will furnish the popcorn.

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Ok, so I have a little anger thing going on these days but good news is I haven't acted on it...yet...it's a pressure cooking though...

I have a job if I want it 700+ mi away...it sounds fantastic and the timing is perfect for my assignment end here. I wouldn't get sent away for any long period, only episodic 2-3 day travel. Excellent hours and would give me lots of quality time for the kids. I was told it would be the parfect job for a single parent. I am seriously considering it and looking into homes etc in that area.

I am dreading this transition period...I just want to get things handled and move on...too bad life isn't like that Huh?

How would job relocation affect WH’s custody? Again, this is an issue to run by your attorney. I am not saying don’t do it, just be sure to let your attorney know. You do not want to be legally blindsided in court.

Can we start calling you St. 2much?

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2much....

you are too much!

Like Todd suggested....I encourage you to 'run' your plans by an attorney to minimize surprises.... me thinks you have had enough for now!

(((((((((((2much)))))))))))


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Hi Luna,

How is your Dad?

And, how are the "poles"?

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2much -

While I was working OT, and taking in roommates to pay the bills, WH was spending as fast as he could. He insisted that the OW was not interested in his money.

I never did find out how he spent our life savings - but know that OW required a $500. tatoo, a trip to Hawaii, a cruise, and 1 carat diamond "engagement" ring.

I hope you will protect yourself financially.

believer #1694543 10/25/06 09:43 PM
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Welcome back Believer.


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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bigkahuna #1694544 10/25/06 09:54 PM
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Thanks bigK - the end of the fiscal year did me in. I spent so much time working, that at night, I just fell into bed. Did try to read a couple minutes every day though. Sure glad that is over.

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How is your Dad?


Hi Todd... thanks for asking... hasn't started his 'treatments' yet....still waiting for his wound to heal...may take a few more weeks.

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And, how are the "poles"?


Now...I admit...it might be late in the day....and am not quick...but for the heck of me can't think what you are referring to...

Getting excited about my trip to SF...just reserved hotel for my SF stay this week...reading up on the city 'attractions'... I could certainly use the break...

How about you? Will you be able to move out soon? If I am not mistaken, your assets were frozen... how long will it be before you can get some 'liquid' for future plans?

....looks like the tooth fairy doesn't come cheap....and can't eat soup forever...LOL!


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bigkahuna #1694546 10/25/06 09:57 PM
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Hey Stef - Yes please change your sleeping habbits

I'll do my best. Not much on staying up in the middle of the night, but if that's what I have to do to keep up... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

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and stop switching threads and we will be fine

You switch threads all the time. Learn to keep up! I've gotta keep you on your toes! Pay attention! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

WH called me this afternoon for no reason (again). He called again when he got off work. I was out shopping and he decided to come meet me. So we spent the evening shopping and had dinner and shopped some more. He's teasing me a lot about different things, but I think it's his version of flirting. Or he's nervous still to be around me, and that's how he's dealing with it. I don't know what his deal is yet. Overall it was a fine evening. I asked him about OW and he said he still talks to her at work and doesn't see anything wrong with just talking to her. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

This dating thing is stupid and frustrating.


BS (me)-26
WH-27
Dday-August 2006
0 kids
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status-working on it

"Sometimes, I'm afraid and I don't feel that tough...but I'll stand back up."
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lunamare,

I don't know about the frog keyboard but you can get a lot of characters through the <Alt> key with the numeric keypad. I get Spanish characters that way. On my keyboard, for example, I can get the ñ character by holding down the <Alt> key and pressing "164" on the numeric keypad. The character mapping depends on which keyboard configuration you use but this has always been a feature of DOS since the beginning. You can probably get the "{" just by finding the correct number sequence. You shouldn't have to use the character map or change keyboard settings. The numbers 0-127 are pretty standard since they are based on the ASCII system but above that they change by language setting. Microsoft created this ASCII extension back in DOS 1.0.

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Dunno about dating being frustrating. No sex is frustrating.


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Just to clarify, did you mean "No sex is frustrating" or "No, sex is frustrating"? Wasn't sure whether you dropped a comma or not.

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Hi Believer,

How are things with you?

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I don't know about the frog keyboard but you can get a lot of characters through the <Alt> key with the numeric keypad.


Thanks Pio...will check it out.

Pio? ...are you also getting a costume made for Halloween?


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Welcome back Kotter. I mean Believer.

Good to see you.

Always miss your voice of reason.

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Pio? ...are you also getting a costume made for Halloween?


Why yes I am. I'm going as Niccolo Machiavelli.

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Pio is now speaking in some alien language....trying to get Luna to speak it, too.

And it seems to fit the season.

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no missing commas Pio. Sorry to disappoint.


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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Good evening everyone,

Firstly I am lost for words to thank you all for every kind post addressed to me today. I will never forget the compassion and understanding showered upon me. I was so sad yesterday and the email I received just pushed me over the edge. I was already feeling so guilty for deciding to end my M and for ending our family unit such as it is.

I guess you all knew where I was on this roller coaster and I didn't recognize the scenery. It would take me hours with the speed I write to thank you all individually, so just as the TKO group - Thank you with all my heart. I sat here crying my eyes out reading each post. But it was a "good" cry! When I am ready to leave next time I will of course seek permission. LOL

2Much,

I just had to reply to your post. I guess you and I are in a similiar situation at the moment. My H is a lawyer and a very good one. He is always frustrated when his clients do not seek his advice early enough. It is vital and I stress vital for you to seek legal representation as soon as possible. He will inform you of all your rights and anything you should be doing etc.

Of course I am currently searching for a lawyer that has crossed paths with my H and come out victorious or very angry.

I haven't used a keylogger as my H keeps his computer in his office and I have no access to it. I have heard that one called Spector Pro is very good. I would hold off on purchasing one though until after you consult a lawyer, it maybe an unnecessary expense.

You sound like such a strong,compassionate, together woman 2much. I know you will do well and I wish you only the very best.

Todd,

Do you do requests? Can you post something that will give us all hope of true love and happiness in the future?

Love to you all, Beth

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Now...I admit...it might be late in the day....and am not quick...but for the heck of me can't think what you are referring to...

I am sure it is the fault of my memory. When you were at your parent's and your car wouldn't start, I thought you had referred to the battery terminals as "poles". I guess by asking you if had any "pole" problems, I was asking if you had other car problems.


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Getting excited about my trip to SF...just reserved hotel for my SF stay this week...reading up on the city 'attractions'... I could certainly use the break...

Yes, if I had SF lined up, I would be excited also. I am at the point where I need a history book just to remind me what SF means.

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How about you? Will you be able to move out soon? If I am not mistaken, your assets were frozen... how long will it be before you can get some 'liquid' for future plans?

Assets are not frozen at this point but they will be once I file. I do have access to funds since DS3 is my financial advisor, lol. Of more concern is the rather large sum of money missing. I am having that researched as we speak.

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....looks like the tooth fairy doesn't come cheap....and can't eat soup forever...LOL!

Does not come cheap. MM is anything but cheap. I can eat just about anything. Well, maybe not steak. Or calamari. But that's for different reasons.

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You would eat my calamari.

Or, you would eat NZ calamari. NZ chefs have learned how to cook calamari without making it taste like rubber.

But, hey, we do everything well down here.

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