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ToddAC #1694858 11/01/06 10:23 AM
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All right, here are my results from ToddAC's test:

D (Heart & Home)
B (Philosophy & Wisdom)
A (Power & Money)
C (Morality)
X (Reality)

I ranked the terms in this order:

Reality
Philosophy & Wisdom
Morality
Heart & Home
Power & Money

So my combined result is

D (Heart & Home) Reality
B (Philosophy & Wisdom) Philosophy & Wisdom
A (Power & Money) Morality
C (Morality) Heart & Home
X (Reality) Power & Money

I only matched one (B). So, what do my results mean?


Me: 48 XW: 44 DD: 15
Lived Together: 7 Married: 18 Total: 25 years
W announced divorce 11-3-2006, I moved out 11-7-2006, served papers 11-8-2006. Divorce final 12-19-2006. Life gets better every day.
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Geez Todd.... a surprise visit from your son? ....that must have been fun! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ....my DS15...even though he is supposedly at dad's...does not stop him from 'hanging around with GF' at the house on weekends....

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Woke up to a bloody pillow, bed, face, chest, arm and shoulders again. Hmm... how much blood does the human body have?


...what do the docs say? ...is this normal 'side effects'?

uhmmmmm...don't know about pillows....could tell you more about 'sheets'......and, let me tell you, it doesn't take much to make a mess! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> (...and yes....I know the thread about the feminine aisle would be better suited for this comment...but then...don't think the guys here arrived with the last load of turnips... unless....maybe... that's... not...the...case!...LOL)

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Speaking of Cali, Luna, when you go to SF, there are some must dos. How many days will you be there? If you like Chinese food, you must go to Chinatown and eat at least once. It is the best Chinese food presumably east of China, HK and Taiwan. Of course, ride the streetcar. I highly recommend the one named “Desire”. Drive across the Golden Gate Bridge. Notice the painters who paint the bridge year round. It takes them that long. Then there is Alcatraz, Fisherman’s Wharf, etc. I am envious frankly. I love SF. Chuckle.


...off in a week and a half..a few days in the Monterey region and 3 days in SF...I will make sure NOT to leave my heart there..... thanks for the suggestions.....would you say that a trip to visit Alcatraz is worth it...or...like..a jail is a jail...and just seeing it from afar is enough?

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I am envious frankly.


...sounds to me, though, you have done quite a bit of travelling already.... I like your travelling plans for when you get better....

...and yes....I have chosen NOT to do the test....not enough brain cells to go around! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

...I am trying to get up the courage to tell my very anxious-ridden boss that...it might be fine short-term.... but his need to call me, once or twice, early in the morning at home to tell me that he will not be coming in the office is having a bit of an effect on me long-term and is really not necessary (and that the phone message that he leaves me at work about it will do just fine!)..... I am prepared to tell him that I will just ASSUME he is not coming in, even though he is expected in...and deal with work-related issues when I get to WORK.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

It has been escalating over the past 2 yrs... I need to set my boundaries.....I have been encouraging him to get into a support group...am hoping they have mentors who he could call when 'anxiety' attack strikes...

Dealing with his anxiety issues during the workday is enough for me....I really need to ask him to 'limit' himself to that...and I hate doing it.....I know he needs help...has been isolating himself....maybe this would force him to 'widen' his circle....

Booka....I don't know what it means...but one out of five in my book is not good... I do believe, according to Todd, this means that your conscious and subconscious mind may not be aligned as much as they could...

Maybe Todd could provide some concrete examples of what this means...???

...on a good note...being aligned in 'philosphy & wisdom' can't be all that bad!

...I know when my spine is aligned, or not...then it's time for a massage......does that count, Todd? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


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PLAN D: finalized!
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Here are my results Todd:


SUB-CONSICIENCE:
X (reality)
D (heart & home)
C (morality)
B (philosophy & wisdom)
A (power & money)


CONSCIENCE:
D (heart & home)
C (morality)
X (reality)
B (philosophy & wisdom)
A (power & money)

So my last two matched. What does it all mean?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />


BS (me)-26
WH-27
Dday-August 2006
0 kids
Married 4 years
NC established 1-26-07
status-working on it

"Sometimes, I'm afraid and I don't feel that tough...but I'll stand back up."
stph20 #1694861 11/01/06 01:45 PM
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Hmm.... must be time for a poem. Researching...


uhmmm....this doesn't look good....I know Todd is quicker than that.... I don't think the nosebleeds are 'normal'... even in Todd's case!

Guess we will have to wait and see....tock...tock...tock....


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PLAN D: finalized!
lunamare #1694862 11/01/06 02:13 PM
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Hi Todd and everyone on TKO,

My results are as follows:

SUBCONSCIOUS:

D - Heart and Home
B - Phil/Wisdom
X - Reality
C - Morality
A - Power and Money

CONSCIOUS:

Heart and Home
Phil/Wisdom
Morality
Reality
Power & Money

Guess I have a problem with morality and reality.
Thanks for posting this Todd.
Beth.

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Here are mine

X (reality) Combined (Reality)
B (philosophy & wisdom) (Morality)
D (heart & home)(Heart & home)
C (morality) (Philosophy & Wisdom)
A (power & money) (power & money

Reality
Morality
Heart and Home
Philosophy & Wisdom
Power and Money

And I have NO idea what that says about me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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Subconscious Conscious
1.heart and home 1. Morality

2.reality 2. heart and home

3.philosophy and wisdom 3. reality

4.morality 4. philosophy and wisdom

5.power and money 5. power and money
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Ok, I'm pretty congruent...BAAwwwwhhhhaaaaa... except for the fact that I consciously choose morality as #1 but my inner self has it way down as #4. I see this as sooooooo true of my sitch...I want so badly to deal with the moral issue of lies/betrayal/adultery/infidelity but my high value of heart and home both sub and conscious are squelching my moral efforts. I pretty much could care less about power and $ which is true as long as I have enough for the basics I can be happy.

Ok, Dr Todd tell us what you think of our post personalities matching up with our psych results...what says ye?????

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Kiwi...WOW...you match 100%

I think Orchid would say your heart and mind are in sync

Impressive

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Beth, you too are pretty well aligned...amazing... what does it mean? I'm waiting for our resident psychologist to chime in any minute...

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Guess I have a problem with morality and reality.


Don't we all.....

Hey I have exciting news. I had commented before that I was a little concerned about Frijolito and Chuchito Dos (remember that Pepito I was tragically killed and Chuchito I died quietly in his sleep). Well F and C2 seemed just a little too close for my personal taste. It was even a bit embarrassing at times and I was afraid of the role model they were being for the DDs. It seemed they were "confused" about their sexuality. They were so confused, in fact, that we apparently have a new addition to the hamster family. No name as of yet. While this is obviously exciting news, it is also a bit concerning. We really don't want this behavior continued. So I got gemela's cuticle clippers and Frijolito will be going "under the knife" in a few hours after I do a little more research on the web. Is malt vinegar a good antiseptic? It's about all I can find in the kitchen.

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Pio,

Have you been drinking?

ToddAC #1694869 11/01/06 06:27 PM
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Have you been drinking?


No but we were inhaling helium earlier while deflating the Halloween mylar balloons. We all got a bit giddy. But that was hours ago. I have to be down to way less than 0.08% BAC of helium by now. Besides, the only thing we have in the house is malt vinegar and I'll be needing that shortly.

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Is there no end to Pio's talent?


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Not quite 100% 2much.

That poor little hamster. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Duh...I was comparing your top list to your bottom list...didn't realize that the first list was the combo list right?

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Hi TKO,

One interesting outcome from the test Todd presented is that money and power was ranked last by all of us. I guess if we did not realize how unimportant they are before infidelity touched our lives we certainly appreciate the fact now.

As 2much mentioned - are there any results Todd?

Pio, congratulations on the new addition to your hamster family. I hope someone took the cuticle clippers away from you.

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I thought about something like a modified Bris but the chances of finding a Mohel in Saudi Arabia are pretty slim don't you think?

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Hi Everyone,

That was strange, I couldn't find TKO on the first page.

Where is everyone?

Pio, I think your chances are slim to none to find a Mohel.
I've attended one Bris and swore it would be my last.

Goodnight all. Beth

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Okay now we are up to at least two baby hamsters. We are still looking.

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Lifehouse "Spin"

I'd rather I chase your shadow all my life
Than be afraid of my own
I'd rather be with you
I'd rather not know
Where I'll be than
Be alone and convinced that I know

When the world keeps spinning round
My world's upside down
And I wouldn't change a thing
I've got nothing else to lose
I lost it all when I found you
And I wouldn't change a thing
No, you and I wouldn't change a thing

Everything I know has let me down
So I will just let go
Let you turn me inside out
Cause I know I'm not sure about anything
But you wouldn't have it any other way

When the world keeps spinning round
My world's upside down
And I wouldn't change a thing
I've got nothing else to lose
I lost it all when I found you
And I wouldn't change a thing
No, you and I wouldn't change a thing

Spinning turning watching burning
All my life has found its meaning
Walking crawling climbing falling
All my life has found its meaning

You and I wouldn't change a thing
No, you and I wouldn't change a thing

When the world keeps spinning round
My world's upside down
And I wouldn't change a thing
I've got nothing else to lose
I lost it all when I found you
And I wouldn't change a thing
No, you and I wouldn't change a thing

No, you and I wouldn't change a thing


Me: 48 XW: 44 DD: 15
Lived Together: 7 Married: 18 Total: 25 years
W announced divorce 11-3-2006, I moved out 11-7-2006, served papers 11-8-2006. Divorce final 12-19-2006. Life gets better every day.
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