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bigkahuna #1695858 11/21/06 04:17 PM
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Reactive vs. proactive.


Me: 48 XW: 44 DD: 15
Lived Together: 7 Married: 18 Total: 25 years
W announced divorce 11-3-2006, I moved out 11-7-2006, served papers 11-8-2006. Divorce final 12-19-2006. Life gets better every day.
lunamare #1695859 11/21/06 04:30 PM
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Hey Luna,

Welcome back. Was SF fun? Tell us all about it. It may get us back on topic.

ToddAC #1695860 11/21/06 04:47 PM
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DS1 just called. I am late getting my monthly MRI. I scheduled a scan for tomorrow and DS3 will take me. DS1 is still flat on his back. It's in the AM again so I should hear something before TG.

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What, just because I had been a BW for 4 years when this happened, was I supposed to be the god-awful MIL who simply says DIL was this terrible person!Leave her! Or have done what I did, which was introduce them HERE. They recovered their marriage and went on to have two more beautiful children.
Never assume anything. And I stand by my statement that there are no absolutes. And if I know nothing about all this, I wouldn't have just celebrated the eighth anniversary of recoverey! We are happy and at peace. Wishing peace to all out there also. Perservere and be kind to all!!!!
I never said kick your DIL to the curb. That was your son's choice to save his M. His sit is different BTW because there is still not the interference of the OP where the child is concerned. In my situation OW has continually used OC as her negotiating tool to continue the A. Because she is the mother there would be some sort of C with either the BS or the FWS would need to have some sort of C with the OW until the OC came of age. Can you still honestly say now that you have been on all sides of it? Do you have to live with the anguish of your H having a child with the OW the rest of your life. Believe me the cut runs deep. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />


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DS 30
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DS 15
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Lunaaaaaaaaaa,

obviously it was all your fault. As soon as you left chaos started. Todd had a change of sex operation. Nams is a mass produced ceramic vendor. 2Much throws cognac out the window.

Ok, tell us all about your trip.

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larousse #1695863 11/21/06 05:32 PM
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Where is Pio. I never said he could leave.


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Empty Nesters.
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bigkahuna #1695864 11/21/06 05:47 PM
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Where is Pio. I never said he could leave.

SA is nine hours ahead of EST I believe. That would make it approximately 3:00 am there. My bet is he is under the electric blanket, freezing.

ToddAC #1695865 11/21/06 06:00 PM
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He didn't post yesterday at all Todd. I'm on a roll. Who can I piss off next?


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bigkahuna #1695866 11/21/06 06:22 PM
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He didn't post yesterday at all Todd. I'm on a roll. Who can I piss off next?

Well, if Pio is gone, I am gone. Simple as that.

ToddAC #1695867 11/21/06 06:33 PM
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OK Todd - I'll see if I can piss you off too then.


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bigkahuna #1695868 11/21/06 07:44 PM
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OK Todd - I'll see if I can piss you off too then.

Nah, BigK, not possible. Now, if you became as arrogant as the French or even the Brits, maybe.

ToddAC #1695869 11/21/06 09:19 PM
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Must be the full moon...

Must be gremlins...

There must be something in the water...everywhere in the world!

People are running for the hills or planning on it. What's up with that?


----Hey Luna!---

Hope all is well & SF was the best & most enjoyable ever!

Hi Todd,

I hope your son recovers soon.

Hi larousse, Hi BigK, Pio?


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nams #1695870 11/21/06 09:48 PM
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Hi Nams - how are you doing?


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
bigkahuna #1695871 11/21/06 11:15 PM
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I am shocked and amazed that posters cannot see their post for what it is, cannot recognize how someone might be offended by it and then try to defend it. Stph20 has a whole thread dedicated to her sitch. Nobody her was giving her direct advice as to what action to take except BigK and another person who is now gone as a result of an action that is now quietly covered up and not allowed to be mentioned ever again. The rest of us left stph20 and her sitch to her thread. Other people brought it here.

IMHO, stph20 deserves an apology.

stph20,

I hope you come back.

Beth,

Thanks for the email. You fight dirty. I respect that BTW. Don't worry about the email. It is a shared account between gemela and me so she can read it any time she wants. I won't delete it because I have to be transparent too. For some reason you remind me of Sandra Bullock in 28 Days. Don't know why.

piojitos #1695872 11/21/06 11:23 PM
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Okay, these lyrics are dedicated to Luna in celebration of her recent SF. Trip.

Puncuation is everything, isn't it?


I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down
I feel my heart start to trembling
Whenever you're around

Oh, baby, when I see your face
Mellow as the month of May
Oh, darling, I can't stand it
When you look at me that way

I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down
I feel my heart start to trembling
Whenever you're around

Oh, darling, when you're near me
And you tenderly call my name
I know that my emotions
Are something that I just can't tame
I've just got to have you, baby

I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down, tumbling down
I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down, tumbling down

I just lose control
Down to my very soul
I get hot and cold all over

I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down
Tumbling down
Tumbling down
Tumbling down
Tumbling down

piojitos #1695873 11/21/06 11:34 PM
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Pio,

How many members are on your ignore list? Thank you for reminding me about the ignore list capability. My quality of life has doubled since I started using it.

ToddAC #1695874 11/21/06 11:42 PM
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At the moment there is only one person on my ignore filter list and that person has been there for a week or two. Can't remember how long. I am contemplating adding two more. Probably will. I tried to put bigK on the ignore list but he just sends emails so I didn't see the benefit. Man is that guy ever persistent. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

ToddAC #1695875 11/21/06 11:47 PM
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Pio !

I was so worried. I didn't know who I was going to upset here.

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Good that you are back. That saves humanity a lot of pain. Imagine Todd without you wandering in cyberworld. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

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larousse #1695876 11/21/06 11:50 PM
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Did larousse try to upset me? She goes on the ignore list too then.

ToddAC #1695877 11/21/06 11:51 PM
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Todd, my youngest shattered his low spine and right hip and entire femer and leg while at school. He was in full body cast for a year and had ENORMOUS AMOUNTS OF pt TO GET THROUGH THIS. He is in track this year. It is 5 years later. Don't give up hope. And my doc when I gave birth to my oldest said he didn't feek I could have more, {I have three more boys} They, the docs at the time said he would never walk again. They were wrong. He may not win all the time.... but he is a winner!!!!!!!!! Never give up. And never predict your full happiness for the future, It kinda sneaks up on kids feet!


6 grands
DDay August 15,1998
Reconcilled Mid-Sept.1998
Husband40 FWS, Me 47 BW
Fully recovered and moving on!
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