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piojitos #1697458 02/08/07 01:39 PM
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Yesterday I had a "date night" and after seeing Pan's Labyrinth (beautiful but way too violent for my sensitive taste) we went to a Mexican restaurant, and who was there? Mariachis singing all these mariachis songs. I of course was thinking about Todd...Hope he is not involved in the case above. Naranjada alert is too funny!
On another note, Valentine's day is approaching and I want to go to an undisclosed location and hide my head under the ground until it is over. It will be one year anniversary of DDay. AAHHHHH!


BS (me) 46
STBX WH 53
Married 2000
DS, 11; DS, 10
1st A: LT D-Day - 02/14/06
2nd A: D-Day - 12/21/11
Plan B since 1/17/12
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My x and I got married on V Day. I can live without that day.

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Hi Estrela...and Cind..

V DAY.....OUCH! (That's all I can say!)

TO TKO members:

Are any of you familiar with THE SECRET video??? ...sounded interesting..... considering getting it... seeing what a bunch of inspirational speakers have to say.....can't be all that bad...


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Hi All,

Just another quick hello. I'm on my way to teach a pottery class. One woman has ruined two of her pieces already because she doesn't consult me before diving in. She took pottery in college 35 years ago & I hate to dampen her enthusiasm by suggesting she may not be able to pick up right where she left off...or maybe she has?

My one class is keeping me too busy. My sister called me yesterday to tell me the Postal Service is hiring, made me wonder if just maybe I ought to look into that.


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My sister called me yesterday to tell me the Postal Service is hiring


What are the benefits like? Do they provide the AK-47 or do you have to provide your own?

piojitos #1697463 02/10/07 06:13 PM
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For years there has been the expression "going postal". Do we now have "going aeronautical"?

cinderella #1697464 02/11/07 12:39 AM
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Hi All

Luna - The Secret Video?????? What is that?


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Te, hee, Hiroo & cinders, but naughty

The first thing I thought of when I read about the astronaut was her children. Gawd, not only is their family breaking up but their mother is going nuts in public & in such an embarrassing way.

My sister brought up the postal service because she's having difficulty at her job & is wondering about making a change. I wondered about it because of the expense & time of school. That doesn't mean I wouldn't finish school just that I wouldn't have to worry about money while I go. I'll call & see what's involved. Considering it's a federal position I can't imagine they move quickly.


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nams #1697466 02/11/07 03:12 PM
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Just remember that if you have to take the civil service exam, tank it. The government only accepts the lower 30th percentile. Anything better than that and they won't hire you.

piojitos #1697467 02/11/07 09:31 PM
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I recently heard the origins of the term "good enough for government work."

It came about because, at on time, the federal government had tougher building regulations for construction than the prevailing regulations. Therefore, a building built for the federal government was better than a building built for a company. If you were a construction company, it was a bragging point to say that your work was good enough for government work.

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Hi BigK,

Oprah featured what look like to be 'motivational' speakers who are 'teachers' on the SECRET DVD....

You can check it out on: www.thesecret.tv


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lunamare #1697469 02/12/07 08:42 AM
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Hiroo, you're being naughty again.

If I were a civil servant I'd be insulted.

I think the appeal of working for the federal government is the security & the ability to go from one position to another while keeping rank, particularly nice for those former military folks & benefits are said to be quite good.

I wonder if I'd have to wear the shorts?

What's up with Todd?


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nams #1697470 02/14/07 05:09 AM
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OK. Page 4. What is that?????

I've been away with work.

What is everyone else's excuse?


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bigkahuna #1697471 02/14/07 11:29 AM
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Hi everybody,

Caught a terrific movie this weekend on TV with Maggie Smith that came out a few years ago....MY HOUSE IN UMBRIA...

...Umbria being a region in my homeland....ITALY! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

....really enjoyed the beautiful summer scenery and Ms. Smith's performance! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

....besides that.....life in PLAN B land??.....slow as usual...LOL...and that's just the way I like it!

BigK??? Aren't you leaving soon?

..and stph20?? How are things with you? ...I am going to look for your thread for news of your situation...

What's up with the posters turned 'lurkers'???....too busy....I guess!


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lunamare #1697472 02/14/07 05:07 PM
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Hi Luna,

1 week till we leave. We arrive on 22nd Feb.

MrsK is insisting on me taking my laptop now...


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bigkahuna #1697473 02/15/07 03:00 PM
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MrsK is insisting on me taking my laptop now...


Hope you won't be too busy to 'report back' once in a while!

Got the 'butterflies in the stomach' feeling yet....?!?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

....I so like travelling....it's so 'adventurous'! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

thread on...page 7!!!!!! YUCK!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


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lunamare #1697474 02/15/07 03:41 PM
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WOW - it's almost like Pio has left us again.

We are getting so excited about coming over. In addition to meeting some MB friends we have a great holiday planned.

Only a week to go....


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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bigkahuna #1697475 02/16/07 12:33 PM
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Here's my guess on the frequent name change this thread undergoes;

The name is changed according the mental &/or emotional state of the thread originator & the state of the originator's marriage.

I hope I'm wrong but this new change strikes me as not positive.

Pio?

Enjoy your trip BigK! Gawd, I'd LOVE to go somewhere.


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Nams - I think Pio's name change is overwhelmingly positive and is a good sign - why do you think it's not? He has explained his reasons.

Can't wait to head over. Gonna really rock. Meeting some MB friends IRL will be a blast.


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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bigkahuna #1697477 02/16/07 09:05 PM
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Well just to keep everyone from guessing, I changed the name back to piojitos because most people knew me as that and I thought it was best to leave it that way. For the record gemela and I are doing very well. The A is not forgotten but it is no longer hiding just beneath the surface of everything. I am starting to find some happiness again and I think she is too. If she is not, she hides it well.

I told BigK a long time ago that my primary reason for posting so much on TKO was for my friend Todd. It was my belief that TKO helped him keep his mind sharp (tumor issues) and helped keep him out of depression. Since he is no longer posting here nor even lurking, my motivation has gone. For the other posting on MB, I tried to use my experience in a positive way to help others and hope I did.

I do find that I get caught up in some stories in particular. For example, Jayban's plight hit me really hard and hit some triggers that should have been avoided. MB has also gotten really strange. I think there is still a lot of good here but also a lot that isn't so good. I am disappointed at the treatment that FH got even though I can understand both sides. But it was just plain rude.

If anyone as guessing who it really was that convinced me to leave, it was lunamare. I'm not sure what her personal issue with me is but decided that I no longer care. I see no point in constantly getting my cybernose rubbed in something that nobody even has the decency to explain what it is. I wish I knew what it was that I did to offend you luna but I decided I will never know and will just leave it at that.

I also sit back and wonder why people have 15,000 or 20,000 posts here. I know some people genuinely want to help others. Okay - make that many people. But I saw my post count and realized that it was becoming a significant portion of my life. I can't see how I can try to build a healthy happy marriage when I spend all day and night talking about infidelity. I'm just not that strong.

There are a lot of good people here. There are also some who post for other, more selfish, reasons. But that is human nature. I see that so many affairs now seem to be started by online gaming. People chatting about personal issue through the game. The difference between that and something like MB is that online gaming is already based on fantasy and MB is not. Even so, it shows me that the internet is not necessarily all that healthy.

I like numbers and statistics. I have been intrigued by a few posters and have done mini-studies and plotted their posting by time and date. What I saw was alarming and I wonder if those people are truly aware of what they are doing. BigK - you are one of them. You should go back and look at your posting pre-TKO and then look at it now. You do so much good but I wonder if you don't spend too much time here. You aren't the worst offender BTW - not even close. But what is MrsK doing all the while you post? What does she truly think about your posting? Maybe she doesn't care. I dunno.

There was a computer commercial on many years ago at about the time the personal computer was just coming out. Prior to that, computers were only used for video games like Atari, etc. So a young man is in the HR director's office for a job interview and the interviewer says "so I see from your resumé that you have killed 1,000,000 invaders from the planet Mongo". That's where I am with MB at the moment.

For all those who helped us in our sitch, I truly thank you.

p.s. If things were truly going badly for us, I would have changed the name back to my original screen name "traicionado". That would have been a bad sign.

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