Pio-

I'm very glad to see that you and G are getting there and you're finding happiness again. I wish nothing but the best for you.

I, too, have stopped posting and very rarely come to MB anymore. I don't feel it has anything to offer me anymore nor do I have anything to offer but my sympathies for those going through infidelity.

FWIW, I want you to know that you have helped many, be it with advice, or comic relief and many of us will never forget that or you.

Thanks for your comments Pio.

I work from home which enables me to be online during the day.

My wife works irregular hours - can start anytime between 6AM and 3PM and work for 8 hours.

I am never online at night when she is not working.

I do spend too much time here on the weekends - like now for instance.

Thanks Pio. Very glad you are doing so well.

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silly me

...who, if I may ask, among us will be honoured to meet the 'recovered couple'!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

I think you already told us your itinerary a while back....can't remember...do you mind telling us again!

...and does it really include... ML's 'territory'...LOL!

....says luna...jealously! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

....Good luck..stph20...

....hope you give us an update of how you are doing once in a while....take care!

Hi Luna,

We are going to be in Dallas then Orlando then Washington then Las Vegas - a total of 3 weeks.

ML is one of the MB'ers we will be meeting.

We tried to catch Stph20 in Orlando but she won't play ball.

I am thrilled that Pio and Gemela are doing so well.

Hope all is well with you and all of TKO.

I'm very happy to hear you & G are doing well, Pio.

I'll tell you the reasoning behind my guess that things weren't going well & I'm happy to find out I was wrong. Pio seemed to be a name associated with much pain & uncertainty in your journey with infidelity. When I saw you'd returned to it I thought perhaps your were seeing things from that perspective again.

My reasons for posting about infidelity, for coming to this board VS staying in the "after divorce" board, was to better understand how suspected infidelity fit in with what I'm feeling now.

Being divorced & not having the suspicion of infidelity confirmed, I felt I was in sort of a gray area & wanted to get some clarity about the role this played in my marriage & divorce. I don't think posting here or reading here has been detrimental to my recovery.

I guess my biggest question was how much blame does infidelity get in my divorce considering I didn't know for certain it happened? That's still hard to answer & I'm not certain how much it helps me at the end of the day.

I'll still come here because I really like the people on the board& I'll post we it looks like I have anything to offer or just to chat. For those that feel posting here prolongs their pain & may hinder their recovery or think they may be addicted to their computer, I understand the desire to stop, it's the healthy thing to do.

I know I'll miss the people who choose to leave.

Hi Nams,



...ditto for me!

Thanks for the kind words luna. I am doing very well, considering the circumstances. Not very much to report. NC has been established and my snooping hasn't led me to believe it's been broken. I'm still hanging in there!

I am VERY disappointed that I will not have the opportunity to meet BigK. I was really looking forward to it, but finances won't allow a trip right now, unfortunately. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

I get email notification on TKO, so I still keep up with you guys. So, in a way, I'm still around and I'll pop back in with my .02 when needed! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I didn't realise Hiroo had become Pio again Nams - before he posted yesterday.

I think I will be around a while longer.

Hi Luna, Stef, Nams, Pio.

Hi Gang,

I have stayed away a bit...didn't feel I could offer anything helpful and was at the basement of depressions door.

I am glad to see everyone hanging in there...

Pio I am most happy that you are recovering...I knew you would be successful with or without G. I'm just glad for your family that you can remain whole...

I understand that we all have chapters opening and closing at different paces...

My MB chapter is closing as I have not been able to implement the principles without a willing spouse and did not opt for a dark plan B b/c of my unique situation with relocating.

My children see WH 1-2x/wk. There has been tons of drama to include restraining orders (WH against some of the OWs); people anonymously contacting me to "Open my Eyes" (all things I was well aware of) and continued wayward behavior and lies by WH.

There is light at the end of the tunnel...I have a new job waiting for me far away...once the kiddos are out of school off we go...I think the change in scenery and stable routine will be good for all.

I removed my rings, have paperwork 99% ready to file and once I get the last bits of info from WH will file so that I will be 100% D by relocation time.

You all have helped me get through some of the saddest and most miserable days of emptiness, rejection and despair. I have learned much and am much stronger, healthier and aware. I know what my issues are and am continuing to work on them. I also know that WH's behavior is inexcusable and to some unforgivable. I have chosen to forgive but will not live in wayward land anymore.

I thank you all for your diversion, support, experience and assistance in this journey. Although MB has been a lifesaver I need to break my dependence (which I have started to do) and focus on my kiddos and my own recovery. I am not at a point where I feel I could help others but once I get there I think I will be able to return with new perspective and possbibly some assistance.

I will miss you all...like Dorothy's return to Kansas I can't go without special thanks to Pio, ToddAC and BK. I am also indebted to FF and Orchid...thanks and for all the the cheerleading and hugs from Stph20, Nams, Luna, Cinders, Larousse, Beth (special recovery hugs to you)and anyone else in the TKO gang I am forgetting.

Peace and strength to all,

2mhb

{{{2mhb}}}

I went through my d without the benefit of this place. I'm sorry I had to do that. I know it would have been a big help.

{{{2Much}}}

God Bless you in all you do and in your relocating. May everything you do prosper.

Hi Everyone,

Sorry I haven't been around. My medical situation has been over whelming and has consumed me. I am sorry but I have had very little left of me to share(no pun intended!) lol

I did want to wish everyone the very best. Pio I am so happy to hear everything is going well with you. Luna you are always a bright spark on this thread. Nams and Stephanie I will be in touch with you. BigK I hope you have a wonderful trip. I would come and meet you in Vegas if the time was better. 2Much you are quite an incredible woman and I have enjoyed meeting you. I would love to keep in contact with you. My email is available if you would like to contact me but know that I wish you every happiness for the future and thanks for always thinking of me. Todd if you are lurking I hope you are well.

I will post again when I have some news.

All the best to you all and God bless.

Beth

Hi Beth!!

Hi BigK, are you packed and ready? I was thinking today that any other time I would have come and met you in Vegas.
Has Mrs.BigK been here before?

MrsK has never been to the states before. I have been a couple of times. Pack? It's not quite the last minute yet. LOL.

We will be in Vegas 8-14 March....

BigK,

How I would love to be able to meet you both there but I can't go far from home at the moment. I just love Vegas, there is always so much to do there and entertainment everywhere you look. A lot of it is free. One of my favorites is New York, New York. It has a great bar area with a live band plus the Duelling Piano bar is fun and the Irish Pub is great too. Make sure you go to at least one of the shows though. You can also do the Grand Canyon from there which is magnificent but it is pricey...

Also from what I remember about the price differences in Australia bring a spare case with you. I remember the price of even Levi jeans in Australia shocked me, so don't forget to look at them over here. Also, check out our drug stores (pharmacies) as the makeup etc. is much cheaper here.
Oh yeah, if you like that black vegimite stuff you will have to bring your own! (shudder)

If you have any questions please feel free to email me and I would help in any way that I can. Just don't forget the spare case or I promise you will be buying one!!

Have a great time and please let us know all about your trip.

Love Beth

I will most definitely be leaving the vegemite at home Beth. I know clothes are cheap there. REall excited about going. We were planninga few days in the Grand Canyon - hiring a car. We will see a show or 2 - any suggestions?