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I’m going to call Group 1 Rock. Group 2 is Paper and [color:"blue"] Group 3 is Scissors [/color]
[color:"blue"]Group 3) [/color]This group includes [color:"blue"] BS’s who divorced[/color], BS’s who are in Plan B but have decided they don’t want WS back, new BS’s right after Dday in some cases, A WS in this category generally wouldn’t stay on the board except as a troll. I am not a Rock, I'm [color:"blue"]Scissors[/color]. Can't trick me.
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There is no Group 4 and that is where your whole premise fails. In fact the whole argument fails in so many ways.
The word "mistake" is not in my lexicon when it comes to A's.
The word "victim" is not in my lexicon.
There is no caveat and I'm an FWS. So where's Group 4.
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Yeah, yeah .. what Jen said!
And Opps on the "Ivana Trumph", as opposed to Ivanka.
I became very confused from your convaluted formulas and got her first name wrong.
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During my A my H was very close to a woman who owned a store in the same block as ours. Because I was so distant he consulted her on his life and decisions and confided many things to her. She was the first person he told about my A and he said she "hugged" him and cried. He portrayed her to me as a middle aged woman who was a little on the overweight side.
When I eventually met her I found she was an extremely attractive vivacious blonde.
My H swears he is not wired to have an A. I said to him after D-day he was very close to J during my A and he denied it strenuously.
I guess that's neither here nor there but I'm sorry, I still think that there's the possibility the most sensible, serious, moral, upright person can still succumb.
There's no caveat there, it doesn't make the person a victim, it's still a choice, but I've seen it too many times (IRL and on infidelity boards) to discount it.
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LOL Resilient, Ivanka's the daughter.
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I guess that's neither here nor there but I'm sorry, I still think that there's the possibility the most sensible, serious, moral, upright person can still succumb.
There's no caveat there, it doesn't make the person a victim, it's still a choice, but I've seen it too many times (IRL and on infidelity boards) to discount it. I am in total agreement with Jen here.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Group 4 is dynamite.
Dynamite shreds paper and explodes rock...
But scissors cut fuse.
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LOL GC, I have NO idea what you are talking about.
Group 4 was, IMHO, FWS's who accepted full responsibility for their choices.
I've spoken to BS's here and on other boards who became the WS. Not even revenge A's, A's that hit them from out of the blue. It's not pretty but it happens.
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Yeah, dynamite!
Everyone needs to take steps, even someone who reckons himself practically immune.
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Group 4 was, IMHO, FWS's who accepted full responsibility for their choices. Sorry. These fall within my Rock category.
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Sorry. These fall within my Rock category. Yeah, well, you didn't say that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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Yeah, well, you didn't say that. I'm pretty sure I said that.
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LOL - you probably did. I skim read the rock, scissors, paper bit.
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LOL - you probably did. I skim read the rock, scissors, paper bit. Bwhahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Check please. My point precisely.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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So now I'm being criticized for what you chose not to read.
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LOL - I read the start and then thought it was yada, yada, blah, blah. LMAOPMP.
Total t/j the heavens have just opened here. OMG, the rain is SO heavy and the thunder is booming.
I hate winter.
It's 4th of July for those in the States. Height of summer. Here it's the depths of winter.
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Piojito, hi,
I am not sure I should reply to you because you've been quite unpleasant with me in the past; also, with 11 thousand + replies already, I very much doubt this thread still revolves arond your original question.
However, something in your original question made me think and I will try to reply to it. If I understand it correctly you would like to know what is it about the OM in an A that seeems to hold so much power over a woman, right?
I would start by saying that this is not always the case. It does happen with certain women. Not all. As I see it, it is not a rule.
I confess I don't know anything about your story; with this out of the way I will say that this was the case in my personal experience (OP having almost superhuman power over me; like a magnet).
It is also true that my A never became real and did not die a natural death. Literally. OP wanted me to move with him to a different country and leave my family. I did not. He died of leukemia 1 and a half years later. The pain of a thousand "what ifs", magnified his qualities.
But to be quite frank, I do not think this is the reason why it was so difficult to get over him.
What happened is that he made me discover inside of me a woman I never knew existed. Too long to explain, but in a nutshell, a part of me as a woman, only blossomed with OM, NOT with my own H.
I think, when this happens, it is extremely difficult for the woman to get over their OM.
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WTF???????
Pardon my French.
BB to be honest you're absolutely right. You probably shouldn't have responded to this thread.
If Pio has been "unpleasant" to you in the past, quite frankly I'm not surprised.
I'm still trying to decide if you're evil or stupid.
Right now I'm going for evil.
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