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#1699935 06/28/06 02:25 PM
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Apparently the White Glove lady was supposed to meet w/VD this afternoon b4 coming to do our home study.

VD cancelled on her. The WGL needed to speak to the Wookie (he already did that) and VD b4 the home studies could begin. Apparently this is the 2nd time VD has cancelled this appointment. Her next scheduled appointment is Monday...who knows if she'll show.

She (VD) has told the Wookie she is going to draw this out as much as possible. She thinks that if she has OC#1 enrolled in school come Aug/Sept then they won't give custody to us.

What she fails to realize is that if she does not do this home study then it is "failure to comply with a court order" and she can be thrown in jail...which looks good for us. All these cancellations also look good for us....she's not showing to be very responsible is she?

I'm so friggin pissed/disappointed/fed up/sad/tired....um....was that all of em?

Since we don't have the kids the first 2 weeks in July, we can't have our home study till the 20th.

I'm crying.


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Aww now, don't get so discouraged. She's shooting herself in the foot just like stupid people do.


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You're exactly right. It may be incredibly frustrating to have to wait, but I'll bet you suspected she'd pull this sort of maneuver. It's what she does. It will definitely help your case in the long run.

I don't even know her and I want her to go to jail.

When she told the Wookie she was going to draw it out, was that a recorded conversation?


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Probably.

I've quit listening to the convos b/c she makes my stomach hurt....she is consistantly bringing up their past in blatent attempts to get him to relive it with her. Never works...but icky none the less.

If it IS recorded, then YEA, right? That's another one to play for WGL. The one where she nastily admits to getting pg on purpose is already wound to the right spot to play for her (the WGL).


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((((Kimmy)))) - the waiting must be so frustrating and upsetting for you. TT

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I'm sorry. Hang in there! It can only get better from here, right?


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She's another reason why........why.........why..............the rest of us need shrinks - 'cause we have to deal w/ the nutzoid people of the universe.

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Guess what? He recorded the convo with her yesterday in which he asked why she canceled with the WGL. At the end she says that now her weekend is messed up because she has to come home Monday for her interview with WGL. He told her that she'd think of some way to get out of it....and she says....."Yeah. Like maybe I won't have a babysitter," in a voice that the cat that ate the canary used.

IT'S ON TAPE...............

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The smirk on my face after reading that...


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Are your tapes of her phone conversations done legally?

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Yes. It is legal in our state to tape as long as one party knows they are taped.

Since one party knows (us) it's legal.


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Let us know what happens with her appointment today. Not that I don't already have my predictions...


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Yes. It is legal in our state to tape as long as one party knows they are taped.

Since one party knows (us) it's legal.

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I just realized that today is still Sunday.


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Nah. It's migraine monday here.


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{{Kimmy}}


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So???


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KIMMMYYY!!!!! What happened???


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Sorry about the post and run, but after that 1 post monday, I went home with the mentioned migraine where it proceeded to kick my a$$ all day.

She did go to her meeting. Before she went she had to call and tell how WE were making her life ******, da, da, da, da, da... WHATEVER. After, she called and her boyfriend, whom she conveninetly broke up with about a week ago will STILL have to be at the home study part AND will have to have a criminal history check (Wookie already ran it...he's got a past). She had tried to tell the WGL that they were broken up, but the WGL told her that she knows that VD and BF were on again off again, so he HAS to be there.

OH, and VD called last week and told the Wookie that she will sign the kids over to us if we get a different lawyer. She says our is inept...um, okay....we're gittin'er done...how is that inept? I think she tried to bat her eyelashes at him and he called her on it....since it didn't work on him, she got ticked. Whatever. We're NOT going to lay down another retainer to please that tart and she was told as much.

On another front, she called last night at 3:28 am...yeah...that's A-M! We didn't pick up. D&D should be illegal (drinking and dialing). Betcha she didn't make it to class today....

- Kimmy


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Love it! I'm a bit amazed she didn't cancel, but I think it's great that her boyfriend has to be there. And the lawyer thing kills me. Whenever I think she's going to run out of stupid things to say or do, she surprises me.

Thanks so much for the update. I've been thinking about you ever since I thought it was Monday.


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