A lot of us a dealing with irrational, selfish, and downright mean WS's, Ex's, STBX's etc. I saw the thread on Sun Tzu and it reminded of an email that my attorney sent me a few weeks back that really helped me prepare for "battle". Here it is...
EMAIL:
Remember to slay the mighty beast, you have to be patient, skillful, professional, calm and collected. Your emotions cloud your judgement at a time like this. Don’t allow it.
We are not in the business of trying to impress the other side with what we have in our arsenal. We want them to be comfortable enough that they do and act as if life could not be better and when it’s least expected nail them.
Two schools of thought on approaching an enemy…
One; The enemey sees you coming, your knife is jagged, rusty and dull; you haven’t taken the time to hone it and polish it, you have been to eager to have them pay, so you stab them many times and you leave jagged wounds that aren’t lethal, they know they are cut many times and in many places and so they begin defending with all their might as a matter of survival, throwing everything they have at you.
Two; The enemy never sees you coming, your calm, cool, and your almost unconcerned demeanor has thrown them off, suddenley from nowhere you approach with a clean, razor sharp, honed blade that you have been sharpening since day 1, you without a sound slice cleanly across their throats, they never know it, until it is too late and the last thing they see is their own blood trickle down their bodies as they suddenly realize what has happened.
This of course is an analogy about conducting battle with a WS over immportant issues (custody, financial settlements, etc)
My attorney sent me this at a time that I screwed up over and over again by confronting my STBXW with information that I should have been collecting in secret and using to sharpen the blade.
